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male
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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend sometimes brings up exes in conversation and this stirs up old feelings for my ex who I got over last year after a year and a half - is that normal? I strted going out with my girlfriend a few months after i got over her. Does it mean that I dont love her? I find myself checking her page on Facebook more often now.
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reader, Eng_vice  +, writes (12 July 2013):
I commiserate as I find myself in the same situation at the moment. Doubly bad for you as you miss her son. It is difficult in this age of social media to block people out of your life.
I suggest you accept it is normal to have feelings but maybe block her profile on FB and also accept it is part of life to have to leave people behind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): I guess if you need to ask then maybe you are not over her. I think about my ex boyfriends periodically even being in a current relationship. Certain things stir up old memories and I reminisce every now and then about the good and bad. With you it is different, you said that her talks of her exes stir up old "feelings," about your ex, not memories. Both very different.
Sounds to me like you do still love her. As for your current flame, I don't know if you love her. I think if you did though, you wouldn't have to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): I'm the OP - it didn't end well with my ex. She was a bitch to me and treated me badly. I deserve better. But I do miss her son, he was like a son to me and I am reminded of him too...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): There may still be some residual feelings leftover for your ex; but it's not a good idea to reverse your recovery by checking up on her on Facebook. Delete her.
Getting over someone is a long and laborious process. You shouldn't feed the urge to followup on you ex; the point is to move on. You have a new girlfriend, and that's where your feelings should be focused.
Your ex is doing fine without you, and wasting your thoughts on the past will bring back the old pain you felt when you broke up. Just move on and allow someone else to fill the void she left behind.
Regressing back to the point you were, when you first broke up, is what will happen if you do not heed this advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): It seems to me that you are still in love with your ex-girlfriend.
Is there any way of getting back with your ex and work on the relationship.
Did it end badly? was there no closure?
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