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writes:Hello everyone,so, here's my situation. I am 19, my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We were close friends, I mean, we attended at the same school for 8 years, I know him since when we were 3. After 5 years of not seeing each other, one day he came back into my life and we fell in love. We ended up together, and these 7 months have been really amazing. We had our ups and downs, but quarrelled just two times, and the most of the time I felt really good. I loved him, and he loved me.Now, three days ago, just before going on holidays, he broke up with me. He told me that he doesn't love me anymore or well, that the love he feels now is not the same as mine and that he doesn't want to stay with me anymore.I accept this. I mean, I still love him of course, but I have started to realize that our relationship wasn't as good as I believed. Now he's in NYC, and as soon as he comes back (7 days), I'll have to give all his things back and never see him again.Now, here's the question. I am not asking you how to get him back - if it's destiny it will happen, if not, nevermind - I am asking you if you guys think it's possibile for me and him to stay friends. I really like him as a friend,I always did, and as we have been friends since when we were children, I don't want to lose him. I really missed him during those five years, he was my bestfriend, we have a lot in common and he knows me better than anyone else. Do you think that it is possible to keep this friendship? And if so, what do you think I should tell him? I don't want him to think that I want to be friends because I hope one day we'll get back together. I just want my friend back. Thanks for the help :)p.s. sorry for my English, I'm Italian ^-^
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 July 2013):
 First, be completely honest with yourself. Are you certain that your motivation is solely, 100% to be friends? That you could see him fall in love with someone else, marry them, and be happy and supportive without any jealousy? If that's truly the case, then tell him what you've told us. Being up-front with him is your best shot.
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reader, maria.niz +, writes (13 July 2013):
maria.niz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease I really need your help, I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): When you're really in love with someone,you can't just be friends. Will you stand to see him with some other girls? Think about it.
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