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writes:I am in love with my best friend. How could I not be? He is always there for me and we do everything together. We have stuck together for a very long time, and I believe he feels the same. One issue; he's gay. Since I am his female "fag hag" (as he calls it), I feel there is never a chance. However, I still hold hope.I know it sounds dumb, but I have never opened up to anyone the way I have opened up to him. We live together, travel together, cry together, and try new things together. I have been in love before, but this is something stronger than I have ever felt.What should I do? Should I tell him, or let him go?Mind you, he has never "been with" a man or a woman. So, I still have my hopes that one day he will surprise me and say he loves me too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): I do not think you should tell him. It can cause nothing but hurt.
You're not his girlfriend, you're his gurrrlfriendd!!
I couldn't exactly get the emphasis on that word that i wanted, but oh well.
He likes men,and you aren't one. So yea.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 August 2010):
If he is gay (and it seems as if he really is), then you are setting yourself up for a lot of pain by telling him. It will do nothing, and will affect your friendship, possibly beyond repair because he will realize you need to be alone to get over him. He's a great friend, but it will never go further. It simply can't. You're hurting yourself by thinking of telling him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 August 2010):
 How does he know he's gay if he has never been with a guy? Or he's newly gay and has that attraction for males? If he has no interest in females at all the chances are he's not going to be in love with you. You're a fag hag, you're there to support him and his choices, let him be that shoulder to cry on when a guy breaks his heart, to go shopping with and he's not afraid to tell you that skirt is atrocious, you're his back up date to all events, you give him your honest opinion on the guy he's crushing on, he dances with you when you go to straight clubs, you're his DD when you go to gay clubs, you're the one that eyeballs the ex and scares the crap out of that he's not going to approach your gay friend...the list go on to what a fag hag is..how do I know, I'm one to many myself. A gay guy is the best of both worlds, he loves to go shopping, picks up after himself, and loves to gossip but best of all he knows how guys are and gives you the best advice when it comes to you dating. I look at gay guys like they're girls and some of the hottest guys I know are gay but what can you do? Now, you're sitting on this secret and it's best to come clean about it and tell him. But, one he'll think you're joking and laugh it off, or he'll be like "oh you're serious" then things get a lil awkward then he'll tell you that he's for sure he's gay and you'll continue to be friends. Either way be ready for rejection, but I'm sure you guys will still continue your friendship because the fag hag bond is strong.
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