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writes:my best friend (Sara) likes this boy(evan) who goes to a different school than us. evan is best friends with kyle, who is dating another friend of ours, jackie. so since october (its january now),sara has been trying to get with evan, but she's basically in the friend zone. i met him for the first time this past weekend, and i knew she like "claimed" him, so i didnt even go for him at all. and the only other boy in the car was gross, so i didnt go for anyone that night. So the night ended, and i get home. i have some bbms from jackie and sara, that evan wanted me around more and that i'm "mysterious" what does "mysterious" mean anyway? i played it cool, but idk what's going on now, b/c sara has NO SHOT with the kid, and i could maybe eventaully develop feelings for the guy. what do i do?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Well, according to the "girl code" he is off limits, unless she (Sara) gives you the OK. I would talk to her and see how she would feel. But this is ALWAYS a tricky situation. So you need to figure out if you value your friendship with Sara more then you value having a "go" at a guy.
Good friends don't hang on trees.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (11 January 2011):
Okay, so you're basing the idea that you "have a shot with this kid" on hearsay from others? Yeah, very reliable info.
Anyway, you say you didn't "go for him at all" because of your best friend. But now you think you have a shot of getting with him, you're rethinking that decision. Why? You don't have feelings for the guy, just a vague possibility because someone said that he said....
To me that sounds like you don't value your so called best friend very much, if you're swayed by such little effort. Anyway, if you do go out with him I gather she will not be very happy with you.
As for being mysterious, this is usually said about people who don't really let others get to know them. Those who are inconsistent in their responses, therefore making it impossible for others to judge what they're like. I'll leave it up to you to decide whether that's a positive thing or not.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (11 January 2011):
Different people will tell you that you are right/wrong in pursuing him, usually based on their personal experiences with the matter.
I'll just ask you; do you value this friendship more or a chance with this guy? Is it worth risking? Don't think about right or wrong; think about what you would think if your friend started going after someone you liked.
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