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writes: My best friend has recently changed towards me, shes become distant and cold with me. We used to speak all the time and tell each other everything but now we argue everyday and it will end with her shouting at me and saying that she hates me and doesnt want to know me anymore, afterwards she will say she didnt mean what she said. She has had depression and i was there through it all i never left i was there when no one else was to listen but it seems like shes forgotton that. Sometimes she blames me for the way she acts towards me she will say 'you have made me be like this' and that really hurts me. I just cant leave her we have been through so much and sometimes it will be great between us but then it changes and it carries on with her saying she doesnt care about me. I dont no what to say or do anymore.
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reader, wnabe_ctygrl +, writes (3 March 2006):
There is somthing wrong with you bf...and the only way to work it out is to talk to her about it. If that doesn't work, it may be best to let her go, but still be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on. Some people do like some space, so maybe you just need to give her some room to work out her probs. Please remember, if she acts like she doesnt want you around, dont go off and ditch her, but be there when you need her.
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 I realize that you care about this person very much and you want to help. But you also have to put yourself first. She is hurting you and that is not the kind of friendship you need in your life. It sounds like you need to spend some time apart and see if that improves things. If the problem is depression, then all you can do is let her know you are there if she ever needs a friend and give her some suggestions as to where to find help. While you are waiting to see whether this person cares about you enough to try to make your friendship work, you should go out and try to find friends who will be supportive of you and more sensitive to your feelings. If you feel you have done all you can do, then just let go. If they truly care about you, they will realize they have pushed you away and come back with an apology; if not, you were better off without them in your life. Good luck to you!
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