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writes:My english is bad but i hope you can understand the thing..i have the same problem...my girlfriend is flirting with my best friend..i know they dont have nothing right now but theyt are to close to each other...and they hide things to me..it hurts because they think im the bad guy..it just that it hurts to me to see them so close and i know they will fall in love in the future...my girlfriend and i stil 100% in love we have being dating for five months and is great...but my best friend is really annoying me because he keeps getting close to her...and sometimes my gf turns cold to me...i always see them laughting and happy...i love my gf but i thinks every day the love she feels for me turns to my bf...what should i do?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 You have to have trust to have a relationship, and it's hard because you love her, but she's doing things to lose your trust. I'm confused because you guys are still completely in love, but you say that you are afraid that they will fall in love with one another in the future. Is it really flirting, or is it just friendship? They're being disrespectful of your feelings, they're bound to know that it hurts you. I would talk to them, and tell them how you feel. If they truly care about you, they'll understand.
Espero que las cosas se dèn y te deseo mucha suerte :)
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 If they were both your friends they would not be acting in hurtful ways toward you. Is she trying to make you jealous? Is he in competition with you?
That sort of behavior is common all around the world as you see by a lot of the posts here. Triangles always create drama and problems. They are both being immature and insensitive.
I made the mistake of allowing my BF to flirt with a bitchy woman who lived in my building and it only got worse and like you said, you end up the bad guy for getting upset about it.
I would tell them both if they like each other so much then they should both have each other - that you rather not have people like this in your life. Take a stand and call out the truth and walk away from them both.
From my own experience "friends" like this only bring unhappiness and are not friends at all. They try to make you look like you're wrong because they know they are being very selfish and insensitive. Find a new girl and a new best friend as they are not being kind at all. They are being insensitive to your feelings and you have every right to be upset. Just don't act like your upset. Just laugh at them and tell them to leave you out of this since they seem to like each other so much.
Also tell her that you don't respect a woman who flirts with other men, and if she needs the attention of other men, then you don't need her.
Turn it around on her and stay strong about it. Don't tell her how much you love her, that only gives her power to continue this ugly game. Neither of them are worthy of your friendship if they continue doing this. ITs rude, selfish and unkind.
Don't yell, Don't argue. Be firm and unemotional about it. Women HATE when their man turns cold. THe more emotional you become the more they know they can control you.
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (16 November 2008):
hiyah start trusting her and him, this guys your best mate and talk to him saying your happy they get along but sometimes you need that alone time that youve been lacking recently.with mates its a lot harder and yes its hurting you but you cant atomatically assume she will end up loving him from what i see i think she loves you! if its really getting to you you need to talk to them, both seperatly and be careful how you go about it dont acuse before you know the facts, its risky. shes turning cold on you worries me. talk to her tell her how she changes when hes around, it could be harmless mates having fun so do be careful but i see your point and it must be hard for you, dont judge staright away they both love you remeber this.i hope all works out xxx
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reader, AuntBeth +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Hey darling, this is a tricky one. Basically, if you and your girlfriend love each other as much as you say you do... then there's no problem. If she loves you, but has a little crush on your friend, there's no way anything is going to happen. After all, love is far stronger than slight infatuation.If you're very worried, I suggest you talk to them both together. Share your problem, and if they truly care about you, they'll understand. Tell them they can still be good friends, but maybe cool it down a little. Hope this helps you. x
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