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30-35,
anonymous
writes:One of my best friends and I admitted an attraction to each other one night, we are both girls and her dad is completely homophobic. She led me on to think she wanted a relationship and we kissed. she broke it off 2 days later at school. about a month later I found myself and her lying on my bed kissing. I walked her halfway home but she didn't want to do anything about it and she said let her think about it, she has been flirting all the time and its been really hard for me because I think I have been falling for her. at a party I recently attended I got very drunk and blurted out the full thing that had happened between us and now there is a lot of tension between us whenever we are in the same room. can anyone give me advice on this???? I know it is messed up and I have been miserable for weeks now. She is also not the type of person that shares her feelings and "opens up".
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I think the best advice here would be to move on. Yes it will be hard, but she obviously is not going to commit to you any time soon. She is just not ready to face that yet. Her father is a homophobic so off course she is going to be worried, and I am sure it made things 20 times worse when you decided to let slip some intimate details, again you should always remain tight lipped about private details like that and don't use alcohol as an excuse.
I can understand you have falling for her, but I think the best thing to do now is to move forward and avoid as much contact with her as you can. A friendship with her would be just to difficult for you to deal with at the moment. She needs to find herself and accept who she is before she even thinks of dating anybody. Goodluck.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Knowing what you know about her, that her dad is very homophobic, I do not see how she could lead you on with wanting a relationship. If she listens to her parents, she is probably quite worried that her dad will find out about the two of you and that will cause problems for her. It makes it worse that you blurted everything out when you were. Blurting out intimate information about someone you supposedly care about is bad news. Whenever you have intimate relations with anyone, it is best to keep that between the two of you, not tell the whole world. But, by now you probably realize that. I would call her or write her and tell her how sorry you are and how you would still like to be in contact with her. I am not sure what she will say, but you have to live with your choices now. You likely broke her trust in you on your drunken night out, but the only thing you can do is apologize and hope she accepts the apology.
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