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writes:been with bf for 13 years i cheated on him which i deeply regret hes in prison he rings me 3x a day comes home on a weekend he tells me he doesnt luv me and hes using me til something better comes along but yet he still does things for me and hes always asking when he rings what im doin who im with do i accept its over or stick with it i love him dearly he knows this
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): oh My word ! ! Get rid of him he is using you girl ! ! and who wants to be with a guy whos in prison anyway find someone who deserves you !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): The reason he still rings you and does nice things for you is because the other person hasn't come along yet. And he has no1 else to do ring or do nice things for. When he does find that someone you will be forgotten.
Sorry for being so straight but who does he think he is!!!!!!! Dont be a fool for him. He told you how he feels. So leave him to it.
Get rid of him....
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 He is sorry for being in prison and giving you this kind of life and he wants you to have a better life and that is why he said those words.He felt it was unfair to keep you waiting and if you wanted to leave, he would not blame you .
He loves you but it pains him to see you are also suffering and he cannot be at your side except the weekends.You love him dearly and it is such a strong bond and it is difficult to break or cut it.
You can wait until the last train pulls in and if he is on it you will be united again.
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Well first of cheating was wrong. But just put to life experience. If it helps get it off your chest. Since it seems your relationships broken anyway.
Why are you letting this lad treat you like this?
Using you until something better comes along?
Girl get some pride! Dump him now. Hang up on his calls.
And move on. He aint worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Awh.. If he's telling you he doesn't love you, that's awful. And this relationship isn't working. No matter how hard this must be to accept, if he doesn't love you, you're only going to get more hurt than you already are if you stay with him.
Just because he's in prison doesn't make any difference, really, when it comes to this, because if one person in a couple doesn't love the other, who knows what he'll do?
I can understand that you love him dearly, but you have to respect yourself first, over him. He's told you he's using you. This isn't right. It's unfair on you.
If he's telling you all these things, it sounds like he isnt showing consideration for your feelings either, which is key in a relationship.
I'm really sorry to say this to you, but it's the truth. It'll be hard, but you have to back out of this relationship while you have the chance. Otherwise, he will end up going off and you'll feel undignified and alone.
I'm sorry, it's just you need to respect yourself. There are plenty more people out there, you need to give yourself a shot at someone who'll treat you like you deserve to be treated. Please.
I hope everything works out for you. Good luck.
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