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writes:I love my boyfriend very dearly but now I'm unsure how to act with him because of his constant attacks which are pretty much unprovoked and the time he tried to kill himself. For example, I might mis pronounce something and he will totally flip calling me an idiot and telling me to get out of his house. If I go to leave however, he will get up and give me a big cuddle and tell me he didn't mean it and that he loves me and wants to be with me forever.At new year, he wanted to leave a party early as he said he felt unwell so I took him home but went back to the party as he told me to. His mum phoned me about 2 hours later asking me to come through because my bf was in a right mess and had tried to hang himself.I think this might be the reason why he acts out towards me but he wont talk to me at all and all I want to do is help him.Any suggestions??xx Reply to this Question
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 From what you wrote it seems that your B/F has issues. Without judging him I will say that maybe he has issues long before he might you. He seems to want to control you and how you act, which is not a good thing. You didn't say if he abused phyisically, but it come to that. The attempt killing of himself maybe that he might want you to feel sorry for him and not leave. A way of getting to stay with him, also a control issue. I'm not telling you to leave him, but asking you to try to get him some help. Let him know that you love him and that in order for you to stay/understand him he has to do this not only for you but for himself. It's ok to stand by your man, but not ok to be his co-dependent partner. It will also effect you in the long run if he doesn't get help.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 January 2009):
Your boyfriend is mentally ill and needs medical help.
This has gone beyond anything that you can do to help him.
He need professional help now and not just kind words and being listened to, he needs diagnosis and possible medication as there is something not right in his head.
It could be a chemical imbalance or anything like that but you NEED a doctor to do tests and find out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 get him help! he should really get on some anti-depressents... and maybe he's bipolar? idk. but take him to a psychiatrist immediately! i'm surprised his mom hasn't already done anything about this...
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