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writes:I was round at my friend's house, and we were having a good chat, socialising and having fun and talking about what's in the news. The conversation went well until my friend said "Have you heard about this man who got TWENTY WOMEN pregnant and who's not paid child support to TWENTY WOMEN across Greater Manchester, Cheshire, Staffordshire and the West Midlands?"She showed me the article (with the photo of the man) and I was stunned to see my boyfriend in the photo.She said to me, apparently this man, hasn't paid child support to ANY of these women, leaving them all single mums. I said to her that this guy was my boyfriend and was shocked to discover this and thanked her for showing me the article.When I got in from work, I confronted my boyfriend (who I have a 2-year-old son with) but he denied it. I then showed him a copy of the article and told him to find somewhere else to stay because I can't trust him and told him it was over. He kept begging to be allowed back to see his son, but I told him how can he, he never sees his other children.He just vanished, and was never seen again. I hope he hasn't got yet another woman pregnant.Now I feel more liberated, but at the same time, can't trust men that well, unless they're men I know very well.I feel sick and disgusted to think I wasted 3 years of my life with this man. It makes me shudder and feel revolted thinking about it.How do I cope with this without getting depressed, jaded and angry?Please help me.Karen (30) from Walkden, Greater Manchester, United Kingdom
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (10 January 2009):
 what a cukoo! your well shot of him. just find thing to fill your gaps like a new hobby or nature walks to pass the free time.
good luck
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (10 January 2009):
what a cukoo! your well shot of him. just find thing to fill your gaps like a new hobby or nature walks to pass the free time.
good luck
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reader, bitch  +, writes (10 January 2009):
Big hugs to you. This is not your fault at all. you should remember that most men ARE NOT this way and that you are just a good trusting person who was not lucky this time in love. That is all. It is ok to feel angry, depressed and jaded. You need these emotions to help you through this very difficult time. But you can't stay stuck in any of these feelings for too long, it is not good for you or your son. You have to remember that it is all about you and your son and this guy is just an idiot for doing what he did to all the women he did it to. Nobodys fault but his! I would try to get in touch with some of these women and maybe make a support group for all of you so you can gain strength from each other. Support groups where you share a common thread such as this can be so helpful and uplifting. Big hugs to you girl...
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reader, eddie  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 This sounds strange, if it's actually true, you should feel happy you've discovered this information. The next thing I would do would be to have some STD tests done. Realize that this guy is not a man. Time is the only thing that can put some distance between you and him.
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