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My b/f always takes me along when he is busy, thus leaving us little alone time!

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Question - (16 October 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 16 October 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend of about a year and a half always takes me with him when he sees his friends, and well, at first it felt good - I was able to get to know his friends and it was good to know that he somehow wants to show me off to his friends.

But now I am starting to feel a bit strange about this. He not only takes me with him to his friends' parties, dinners, and so on, but also when he has to do his errands, his works, and so on. It is like even when none of his guyfriends brings their girlfriends, I am the only one hanging out with them. And I told him several times that I do not want to interfere with your guys' nightout, but he just says they do not care.

And recently, he is taking me to places to do his work and errands, and I asked him a couple times that he can always see me after getting his work or errands done, and I would not be mad if you cannot see me because you are busy with those, but he still does it.

This makes me wonder whether he is avoiding to have our lone time together by taking me around to places, or is he afraid of making me mad for not being able to hangout much and therefore trying to make up for it by somehow having me be with him when he does his work and errands?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (16 October 2009):

It could very much be that he's avoiding time together. There are some men who do this to avoid anything to committed. Be careful. You must tell him that you'd like to spend more time with him as a couple and nothing else, and that you sometimes would like not to go on guy's nights out because you don't always want to. Speak to him about that and see what he says.

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