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writes:what do I do I am so upset? My aunt and me live kinda far but we have always been kinda close even because she is not just my aunt she is my godmother and so it means a little more to us usually. Well I went to send a request on facebook for her to add me and she did I told her how excited I was that she is coming down to Florida for a week and I wrote it on her wall but it was very simple message. So then 2 days later she deletes me i found that to be odd so I asked her about it through facebook I just sent her a simple private message saying I don't understand why she deleted me and wondering if she had some sorta problem with me personally that I did not know about. So I waited for a response and it had been 3days then I checked my messages and looked over the old one i sent and could she she blocked me so I could not send her anything again. So what should I do here? should I bother to call her and find out what is going on or just except that she hates me? Something is up that I don't know about for sure cause none of the family member that live near her ever respond to me its like there is something they know that I don't about myself that they all seem to hate. Please help me.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 I agree, best to call her before her visit so you wont carry the doubts around for too long and let them set. That way you get to look forward to her arrival instead of dreading it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): I think I would definitely give your aunt a call before her visit. That way, when you discover there is actually nothing wrong, you'll be able to relax and look forward to her visit.
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reader, Lovemeright11 +, writes (10 March 2011):
Lovemeright11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question She has actually always been weary about facebook herself but I only have facebook to be able to keep in contact with my family other than that I would not be able too. SO this is why I am kinda taken back but she is going to be here next week so I am not sure if I want to call her now or just wait til she gets here?
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I really don't want any of my nieces or nephews to be my friends on facebook, I only befriend people that I know and that are over age, because at times I may have no control on what people write and what info they are putting on my wall and I may not want someone I love read something improper that might be posted on my wall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Pick up the phone and call your aunt. I'm sure you're probably just reading too much into this. Afterall, why would she, without explanation, and after the two of you have enjoyed a good relationship, suddenly decide to blank you? Doesn't make sense, does it? So give her a call.As for social networking sites ... I know the tendency nowadays is to conduct your social life via these sites, but the best and healthiest relationships you will ever have are those with people you actually see, and to whom you speak regularly. The trouble with social networking sites is that too many people get involved with other people's business - never a good idea. And remember, just because someone posts something on a social networking site DOES NOT MAKE IT TRUE!Spend a bit more time on the phone, or with your friends, and less time in the very unreal world of social networking sites.I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (10 March 2011):
Don't jump ahead and say that she hates you. If she hated you you wouldn't have had the great relationship you have, and she wouldn't have wanted anything to do with you to begin with. You know yourself that writing something simple on facebook shouldn't be reason to block someone out.
It is far more likely that someone else (like a husband or someone else she lives with) went in and blocked you if they don't know who you are. Or that she herself ended up deleting and blocking without knowing it. The generation above you isn't always that great with technology. Just yesterday I had to teach my mother how to make smileys on facebook chat.
And deleting someone out of mistake happens quite often, even with young people. Call your aunt. Sort it out through conversation. If you can't reach her and wonder if she's screening your calls, instead of getting paranoid and scared, make your parents call her and see. I am pretty sure this is a misunderstanding on your part. Try to relax.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Maybe it had nothing to do with her not liking you. She accepted your friend request and didn't delete you until after you made that post on her wall. Maybe she didn't want someone to know she was going to be taking a trip to Florida. Maybe someone else in her nearby family has a problem with you or your parents and she feels torn between them. Maybe she lied about where she was going to get off of work. Who knows? Unfortunately, none of that explains why she would block your private messages too. Maybe you can do some digging and find out. Ask your parents they might know something that could help you figure it out. But I wouldn't belive it has anything to do with you until you get a chance to talk to her in person. In the meantime try not to dwell on it.
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