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writes:I've had this problem for a very long time, and I've tried asking for advice from many people, but no one has cheered me up about this.When I was in 7th grade, I somehow developed a crush on my PE teacher, even though he had white hair, wrinkles, and was about 60-something years old. I think it was because he asked me if I wanted to go to a different class if I would have more friends in another class. I was really touched that he noticed I was a loner in his class and I almost started crying (tears of joy). Anyways, I never noticed I've had a crush on him until he end of 7th grade. When I was in 8th grade, I became his T.A. (Teacher assistant) just so I can stay close to him. We talked normally, though I guess I somehow acted really obvious to him and thanks to my twin sister sprending it around, and a "friend" that I thought was a friend... He found out. My "friend" told me that he wants me to be part of his life, but he can't, because I'm a student and blah(you know the rest). After he found out, he didn't ever talk to me. I could see that he avoided my eyes and... yeah. I was deeply heart-broken that I went into a depression and thought about suiciding. On the last day of school, I finally talked to him. I told him that I was sorry, and he told me that I could learn from the mistakes (which I made). I asked him if he was horribly disgusted, but he said "No, but I'm not happy about it". I asked him if he hated me, but he said "You're a 14 year old girl". And then, he pushed me away and I've never talked to him since. I've came back to the middle school to visit my other teachers, but never him. Even though I've seen him and he probably seen me, we've never talked.I'm still depressed over this. I really need some help. My friend told me that I should talk to him about it, so maybe I can get over it, but it seems really hard to do. I really want to talk to him but, I don't know what to say and I'm afraid of his response, what if he doesn't want to talk to me? But I really need to talk to him. I feel as if my life is a tragedy because of all this. Thank you for reading and thank you if you've posted an answer.
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reader, sweet_lover101  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 I know how you are feeling. I also have a 60 year old crush on my teacher. Though he teaches d.t. Anyway even its killing you inside just act it like never happened. I totally agree with "francy" The reason why he is avoiding it its because he does not want to loose his job, he does not want to hurt you when your so young (based on experience) He just realised how close you and him to danger making you t.a. He stopped because if he didnt stop it it could have gotten worst.
I know how it deeply cuts you because I was like this. I thought life wasnt worth living anymore. But I snapped out of it thinking what the reality is. He is 60 and Im am 13. Even if we do get married and get together it will never work out properly thinking of it in many ways.
There is plenty of people still out there. Its all part of growing up. I still have feelings for my teacher but i always follow my brain that it will never happened even how much hard I try.
Just treat him like a normal teacher like you would treat another teacher and he will be aware that you just want to be student-teacher friendly. So soon he will treat you again like the last time he did.
Good luck hun x
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reader, sweet_lover101 +, writes (24 October 2008):
I know how you are feeling. I also have a 60 year old crush on my teacher. Though he teaches d.t. Anyway even its killing you inside just act it like never happened. I totally agree with "francy" The reason why he is avoiding it its because he does not want to loose his job, he does not want to hurt you when your so young (based on experience) He just realised how close you and him to danger making you t.a. He stopped because if he didnt stop it it could have gotten worst.
I know how it deeply cuts you because I was like this. I thought life wasnt worth living anymore. But I snapped out of it thinking what the reality is. He is 60 and Im am 13. Even if we do get married and get together it will never work out properly thinking of it in many ways.
There is plenty of people still out there. Its all part of growing up. I still have feelings for my teacher but i always follow my brain that it will never happened even how much hard I try.
Just treat him like a normal teacher like you would treat another teacher and he will be aware that you just want to be student-teacher friendly. So soon he will treat you again like the last time he did.
Good luck hun x
p.m me anytime I would love to hear your story. And i could tell you mine as well :)
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reader, francy  +, writes (24 October 2008):
oh, girl friendship will just be too risky , you might end up falling in love with him for the second time, i suggest you forget this guy for good coz the more you get closer to him the more those feelings re- grow.
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reader, smartazngirl +, writes (24 October 2008):
smartazngirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't want to be more than "friends", with him. All I want is to be like... how it was before. Before he found out & stuff. I just want it to be like it never happened. I want to be friends with him at least!
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reader, francy +, writes (23 October 2008):
sweet pie, i understand the pain you are feeling right now , to be rejected by someone you really love is very hard to accept but i want to make you aware of something, what if you guys happen to go out and something bad happens? what would you tell your parents, oh something like(pregnancy) besides that man should have kids and a wife do you want to break their marriage or a relationship if they are not married? plus do you really think you can be happy with man who is a way too older than you? well nah , you can never be happy with him. try going tom some entertainment spots, am sure you will get to love someone of your age and settle with him you will see how amazing it will be just give it a shot. gud luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Even thought it seems harsh he did the right thing by pushing you away. Sorry hon, but your just going to have to accept that there is no way you two can happen because it isn't right.
It sucks that you feel so depressed about this but you're going to have to find a way to move past it. Remember, you're only young and have so much ahead of you. One day you're going to look back on this and laugh.
Promise.
good luck!
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