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writes:I have been with my guy for about two years now and I am becoming increasingly annoyed and concerned with his constant exaggeration of everything he talks about, the always being the marter complaining and a lot of lying about things that make no sense he should even lie about in the first place or leaving things out and not telling me at all like he should. I am to the point that it's hard to believe anything he says. He's like a female drama queen. Can I get him to understand and stop this behavior or is this just the kind of guy he will always be? He's 44 years old. He did not used to be this way... or perhaps now that I know him better I'm finally catching on....what to do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2012): I am the OP. I don't know if anyone is going to see this anymore since it's already archived, but here goes.I have talked to him about it, I've called him out when he lies about things. He does not see it at all and of course denies it all.He comes home almost daily with a cloud over his head, complaining and overly exagerating about how hard his day was...like "I had to walk 15 miles up hill in the snow with no shoes on my feet to get to school every morning when I was a kid" when in actuality he only had to walk. Day after day it gets extremely annoying, it is for attention and I don't know why he feels he needs this kind of attention. In many ways he sounds/acts like a child. I want to give my guy support and compassion, but geesh, after a while, come on....He won a basketball pool, for how much I am not sure...I only heard about it from another friend who didn't think anything of it and thought it was odd he didn't say anything to me about it, kept it all for himself, so he's selfish too.He was supposed to go to this one store...I asked him if he made it there in casual conversation, and he said, yes, there was a $9.00 price difference, and then I found out he never went and bought it at the other store...huh? Why would you go through that whole story and make all that up? I asked him why he lied about something so stupid and he said, I don't know, he was basically telling me what he thought I wanted to hear...again, huh? It had nothing to do with me and it was no skin off my back where he went. There was no rhyme or reason for this...and this kind of scenerio happens often...it makes no sense why he would make up such a story.His lying is getting so bad, there is not a whole lot I believe that he says anymore. If he is lying about stupid insignificant little stuff, how much is he lying about the big stuff?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (21 July 2012):
 You could try talking with him first. Maybe something like: "Is there a reason you are so excited and concerned about this?" or "Is there a reason you lied to me about this?" Usually people who like drama are attention seekers. Is there any reason that he would want/need more attention at this point in his life?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 July 2012):
 Do you think he's aware of it? Have you told him in a non-confrontational way?
Honestly, a person who lies so easily, rarely stop,they get better at it when caught.
What exactly does he lie about and leave out?
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