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Was my note to a co-worker I like too slutty?

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Question - (20 July 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 22 July 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, *ourtneyybrookee writes:

I've been working at this place for about 4 months. About 2 months ago a new guy got hired. I thought he was cute from the first day and always said hi and kind of casually flirted. Recently we've been working together a lot and I've heard through the grapevine that he was interested in me. If you ask me it seems like he is. But he hasn't made any move and I'm shy about things like that. Anyway, about a week ago I asked if I could have a few cigarettes from him since I was out and he said yes. I wanted to say thank you so I bought him a pack and put a little note on it. The note said; Thanks for the cigarettes! :) And by the way, if it wasn't obvious I want you. I gave him the pack as I was leaving and have not seen him yet. We're working together tomorrow night and obviously I'm a little nervous. I mean I know the note might have sounded a little slutty but nothing I can do about it now. Sorry this is so long but I guess my question is; Was this okay? Do you think he's totally creeped out now? He doesn't seem like the type that would be. Thanks for the feedback in advance!

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A male reader, grymsoul United States +, writes (22 July 2012):

grymsoul agony auntPs. It's also funny that the females responses say that it was too much and the guy replies thought it was perfect. Just goes to show you that women don't really know men after all, lol.

The note was great. He'll definitely come around if he truly likes you.

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A male reader, grymsoul United States +, writes (22 July 2012):

grymsoul agony auntI honestly wish more women would do this! I'm sick and tired of this mentality where most women think it's the guy's responsibility to woo her. I'm ok with doing it most of the time, but we guys want to feel wanted as well. We want to feel desired.

If he's into you then the note will definitely gave his heart a faster beat. It doesn't come off as slutty at all. It sounds like a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid of going for it. I'm glad you took the initiative and started to fish instead of being the fish. I hope more women follow suite.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2012):

yeah, coming from a guy, you're note was awesome. would have made my week. props to you, girl.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2012):

Take it from a guy, that note sounds awesome! Assuming he's actually into you, but say, is a little shy or nervous about approaching you, that note will make him melt.

Given how often guys get rejected, many just stop asking women out - incredibly hot when a woman approaches a man!

Best of luck!

P.S. Be sure you're not breaking any company policies about dating colleagues or anything.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (21 July 2012):

Honeypie agony auntI think it's a little IN YOUR FACE kind of note.. maybe you should just have left a Thank you... here is my phone number... instead. Being subtle never hurt.

Guess all you can do is wait and see.

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