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30-35,
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writes:my problem is that i am big mouth,,i always say sth and i dont do it,,i am in relationship with someone ,,i dont know if i am in love with him or not,,i am still virgin but i hate that he kissed me or huged me,,i feel it is sin since i am muslim,,maybe i am complicated,,i used to be succesful,,hardowrker ,,admired by lot of ppl but now i am in complete fiasco.,,i turned to the oppositte ,,i dont study, drink cigarettes,and i was kissed and this makes me feel like being ashamed of myslef,,i cant go away from him and at the same time i feel shame,i became distant from god and became a loser ,,dont knw what to do or where to begin,,i know it sounds crazy but really i wanna return to myslef,,still i do what is bad,,nothing is good,,turned to be from good one to bad one,,i dont know where to begin,ithought i could leave my bf but he will think that i am deceitful although i became so,,each day i think of ending all,,dont know what to doo??
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reader, yukiakashi  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 i'm muslim too. So i.ve never experienced this but my question is, have you been praying. Maybe go to a mosque and talk to the imam. He should be able to help you. Good luck
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reader, rasah  +, writes (9 August 2008):
Dear "Muslima",
That is what's wrong with religion nowadays, especially when people try to combine cultural, times and diff. countries with their "sense" of what religion is supposed to be... I am a Muslim myself, and am also ashamed of what our religion has become. It has become a mixed mish-mash of dominance and "guilt"... people that are supposed to be so-called leaders get others to do what they want through "guilt"... so you are obviously having feelings for someone for the first time in your life, and instead of enjoying the newness of these feelings, you are feeling guilt and paranoia. You can still be virgin and be involved in a healthy relationship! Just because you have feelings for a man doesn't mean you are "letting down" God, how do your think Adam and Eve created other little baby "Adams and Eves"? :). Just be yourself, smile, and enjoy life's daily wonderful adventures and pleasures- you deserve that every day!
People that want to dictate and run your life and not worth having in your life, and even if they are closely related. Personally, I don't speak to over half of my very-confused family and I have never been happier- your stress, happiness and future is more important- you have your whole life ahead of you! Take Care- and pls write me back and let me know how your doing??!!
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