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writes: My boyfriend and I live in different states. He lives in Mississippi and I live in New Jersey.I'm leaving Friday to move with him and his family until we get an apartment, but I want to know he's the one. I'm leaving my relatives in Jersey and I hope everything works out. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (21 April 2006):
I think that what you are doing will help you to find out if he is "the one" as you put it. I think if you think tha the may be the one, this is a good step to find out for sure. You may be leaving your family and friends in NJ, but you can always go back right? I say take the chance and find out, if you don't do it, belive me, you will always wonder what might have been.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (16 April 2006):
Would you like to be more like him?
How would you feel if your children grow up to be EXACTLY like him?
If the answer is "I'd love that" then he's the one.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (15 April 2006):
 You will only know if it is going to work if you give it ago, you are giving up a lot by moving out of your comfort zone were all your family and friends are and moving away with his folks but im assuming you have discussed your fears with him, if not you really do need to!!
We all take gambles in life, some work out and others dont, just keep lines of communication open with your fella and make sure you keep in regular contact with your family and friends.
Living with another family will be stressful but when you get your own place it will hopefully all be worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2006): First off, forget this "the one" bullshit. Maybe you could spend the rest of your life with this guy, but that doesn't preclude you being able to form bonds with other people under different circumstances, or even breaking up with great people under bad circumstances. You can never know if anyone is "the one", because there is no such thing. The question then becomes: do you think you could make a good couple with this guy? Do you get along well? Do you have that bedrock of common interests or perspectives which will help you form a longterm relationship? If you think so, go for it, but if the move to Mississippi is unthinkable for you, recognize that there are other guys in the New Jersey area who you could date as well. It all depends on you, and how long you've been together with him. For some people a good relationship (of many POSSIBLE relationships) is worth moving for, for some it isn't. Which are you?
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