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writes:Right about our one year anniversary, my boyfriend, his two closest guy friends and I are all moving into a house together. Yes... I'll be living with three guys but I'll be in my boyfriend's/our room. Unfortunately, I dated one of his friends for a month about three years ago. And although that shouldn't matter anymore (and it doesn't) as the feelings are completely severed, I still wonder if it will be awkward? What should I expect out of this living situation, in general?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Hi, I'm the original poster. I suppose I should have added this little tidbit in the first place:My boyfriend DEFINITELY knows about my past relationship with his friend. But he also knows that his friend found it to be a one-sided relationship. As in, I liked his friend but he did not like me back but we still dated for a short period of time. Totally unfair but it is what it is. After that, I literally did not talk to his friend for two years until I started dating my now boyfriend.As for what kind of guys are they and what kind of girl am I. Well, it's simple really. The third guy is a man-whore but he has morals. He would never touch nor attempt to touch his best friend's girl; I'm safe there. The guy I once dated is a super virgin and although I still think he's cute, he and I have quite literally nothing in common. And since he apparently never liked me "like that" in the first place, I'm going to assume that I'm safe there as well.As for me, I'm not the type to cheat. I've been cheated on, I do not like the feeling and I could never put someone through that. Especially someone who I love.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (7 April 2011):
Everything is possible. Which kind of guys are they? Which kind of girl are you? I mean with the right people that could end up in a very interesting orgy. And with other kind of people nothing could ever happen. It's true, with so many variable, anything could happen. I guess the fact that you already dated one of them is the most insignificant thing. If you live all together you will end up seeing each other naked or with few clothes.
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reader, yesno +, writes (7 April 2011):
Don't move in. Spare yourself the hassle.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (7 April 2011):
How comfortable do you feel with it? I assume your boyfriend knows about it and if so, he seems comfortable with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Simply because you run the general risk of awkwardness, its a situation you should completely avoid and to completely avoid means not moving in.
Not to mention (and Im not stereotyping American society) you all decide to have a house party and that lovely little bugger called alcohol gets in the mix? OR what if you get into a fight with your BF, this guy hears it, and comes to your rescue? Too many variables that could happen. This shouldnt be worth your consideration miss.
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