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Is he with her for sex?

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Question - (7 April 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 7 April 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *g15 writes:

There was this friend I liked for a year.

We've known each other since elementary school til now in highschool.

I recently moved to another state 3000 miles away

But he knew I was returning and I even came back for the summer time. Summer was perfect hung out literally everyday. We didn't kiss or do anything though. But we talked on the phone hours and hours late at night. But sadly I returned to the other state.

I finally confessed to him that I liked him, after a year of communicating over phone and via facebook.

The way he acted to me I mid understood it and I thought he would feel the same way, but he told me he didn't.

He's changed alot i don't know him anymore, he's gone ego minded after me liking him alot and idk if he's still a virgin. Cu

Now he has a gf, some underclassmen, and when I asked about her to my friends who knew her, all of them told me she has a hoe, reputation.

I have a big ache in my heart and I can't seem to let him.

I feel as if I wasnt good enough.

Swimmer, dancer,singer,actress, and pianist lost to a sophomore with bigger boobs and a bigger butt.

My friends say he might be with her for just some action

Is he with her for just sex and pleasure?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (7 April 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt I don't think anybody can give you a firm yes or not, not knowing the people involved.

Maybe she has great boobs and butt, but also has a great personality and a fantastic sense of humour. Or, maybe, au contraire, she is a total bimbo- and that gives him the reassuring sensation that he is the smarter and more accomplished between them. Go figure.

Anyway, I think you missed an important point : attraction- and love too- don't follow mechanical, mathematical rules.

If you like somebody, this somebody will not authomatically like you back.

And it's not that the one who has the most talents or accomplishments or success necessarily wins all the guys ( or girls ). You could be a Nobel prize- and he could still feel more attraction AND also feelings /sintony with a McDonald employee.

I think you may have misunderstood his actions,being a bit clouded by your wishful thinking. Precisely because in all these years he has just been a friend, and in a whole summer of hanging out he never even initiated a kiss - may be he just sees you like good company but no gf material.

Don't feel like you have lost a competition- this is not the case. You don't need to be the best in all you do to get a man, you need to be someone he can fall in love ( or in lust,OK ) with. And that, alas, is something that 's only in small part under our control.

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