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writes:Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 weeks now, and i know it seems quick but we've already moved in together. We met and fell for each other so quickly we didn't want to leave each other. I am happy with that situation and it was all going grand until Monday when my period skipped. I started my periods about six or seven years ago and i have never skipped one so this is really not like me. I've had all the symptoms of a period, just not the period itself. I'm scared to tell my boyfriend because i dont know how he'll react. I know were both responsible for protection not always being used but I did warn him when he asked that if i fell pregnant i would be keeping it as i dont fully believe in abortions. Were not in a situation financially where a baby would be possible either which scares me more. He spends a lot of his time worrying and moaning about money and how he never has any so having to support a family wasnt on his agenda for a good few years yet, and nor was it on mine as i'm only 19 myself. Does it sound like i am pregnant? I know i need to do a test, but i'd have to ask him for the money for one and i'm scared to tell him, i just want to know if my symptoms sound like i am. And if so, how can i go about telling my bf? x
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reader, betty_black +, writes (24 May 2009):
betty_black is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok so i calmed myself and waited to see if anything changed. Its been three weeks today since my skipped period and my body is certainly changing. I know its going on, my stomach is cramping, not too painfully just dull pains but its definitely all changing inside me, i'm getting headaches, eating so much more, craving protein (im a vegetarian) and im sleeping almost all the time, im so damn tired! I wake up in the middle of the night to feed my cravings, its insane! I took two HPT's after clinic instead of going back and both said negative, ive been reading online and speaking to friends who the same happened to, some women it doesnt show up til something crazy like 20 weeks into it! So im gonna go for a blood test. I know i am though, i might not have gone through this before but i know my own body.. i told my bf and he said he doesnt want it and refuses to believe i am even though his friend told him his girlfriend had the same issue, it was the fifth test that showed up as positive but she knew all along and now they have a beautiful little boy! He said he will support me no matter what i decide and assured me he wont ever leave but hes kidding himself its not happening and he refuses to believe it at all! i know i want it, i already have a bond with it, but he really doesnt!
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reader, groundzero  +, writes (15 May 2009):
Hey armywife you offer some really good advice.way to go girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): Just try to remember that no matter how worried you get about it, that doesn't change he result. You are worrying for no good reason at all.
Caaaaaaaaaalllllllllmmmmmmmmmmmm yourself. and let us know when you go back!
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reader, groundzero +, writes (12 May 2009):
Look sweety just because the lady thinks you are pregnant doesnt mean you are. You have been stressing over this and that also can cause you period to be late..I hope this helps but it doesnt do any good to worry yourself sick about this because there is nothing you can do about it right now..Take a deep breath and relax..who knows maybe in a week you will find out that you are not.Just hold your head up and relax......Hope this helps and I reall hope it works out for you.Sorry it the sweety thing offended you it was not my intention :)
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reader, betty_black +, writes (11 May 2009):
betty_black is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni went to my local brook centre today for a test, it came back negative and i was ecstatic but the woman that worked there told me she thinks i am pregnant and i have to go back in another week if my period still hasn't happened. She thinks i may have fallen pregnant a fortnight ago and the test wont pick that up yet. I'm so confused now! I'm left without a straight forward answer for ANOTHER week! I cant handle this stress, i cant sleep or think straight. I just dont understand it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): aw.. don't let it tear you apart.. wait unti you are sitting there and then your stomach just suddenly moves and you get so excited because it's the first time you felt a kick.. and you call him over and he put his hand there and he can't believe it.. he's so amazed that there's a tiny human inside your tummy.. and your belly gets bigger and bigger and it's so cute the way you can't bend over or get up on your own.. and you eat everything you see and you're huge but he still thinks you're beautiful and tell you "i hope she/he has your eyes." It's a precious experience.. that's as far as i've gotten in mine, but i can't imagine this little girl ruining anything in our lives.
But anyway.. you can go to counseling and figure out parenting styles and diciplin and reward methods and figure everything out together. Just try to remember that the key is compromise. There is just no reason to argue when you can sit down calmly and talk about it and come to a conclusion together.. couples/family whatever counseling should help you though.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (9 May 2009):
betty_black is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI couldn't bring myself to abort or give it up for adoption. Not that i don't belive in abortions in certain circumstances, but like you say its not a form of birth control and everyone deserves a chance on this planet. I got one so my baby deserves one. I've made up my mind that if i'm pregnant i'm keeping it, i'm just afraid of how my boyfriend will react. I know for a fact its not a case of him running away, but i'm just afraid it will change things in a terrible way and tear us apart regardless.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (9 May 2009):
betty_black is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help :)
I do understand its never certain without a test i just want to know if the symptoms sound like it. I'm going to get tested tomorrow with my friend, so fingers crossed!
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reader, groundzero +, writes (9 May 2009):
first off no one is ever ready to afford a baby haha..I know it isnt funny but it reminds me I was 30 and had a great job when my wife became preggo..I thought i was ready financially..well...i wasnt.You should tell him and then go through these events together then if you are there will be no hurt feelings and if your not the scare should be enough to make sure you two are more responsible..If you are there is always adoption as there are good ppl looking for children who cant have them.. Abortion shouldnt be used as a form of birthcontrol that is my belief. Keep your head up and be strong and remember God is with you and will not give you anything you cant handle
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reader, pebble +, writes (9 May 2009):
 Go to a doctor and find out. He'll test you there for free. And really, you should be talking to your boyfriend about this, you're both irresponsible enough not to always use protection so you both deal with the consequences. Maybe that fact that you can't talk to him about everything shows that you rushed into moving in with him far too quickly.Go to the doctor, if you're not pregnant, you need a serious conversation about contraception. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): First thing, nobody here can guess whether you are pregnant or not. Second thing, you should not have been sleeping with this boy before you both had a discussion about the repercussions. Obviously, you should have used birth control, but you know that already.
You say you dont believe in abortion but I wouldnt be so quick to dismiss it. Not to be a pessimist, but making a father out of a boyfriend you havent even had for two months doesn't sound like a very solid plan.
You say he has money problems and that he doesn't want a kid, so you already know what his response will be when you tell him. I really don't want to sound so negative, but I don't think this is going to turn out well. At least reconsider the abortion thing. Tell your boyfriend and see what he says, but please, consider it. Not for your sake exactly, but for the child's.
And get on the pill! It's so easy to do!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (9 May 2009):
 Go and see your GP or the Nurse at your local NHS docters. Tell them that you think you may be pregnant, but cannot afford a test, explain the situation fully - ie, you cant afford it without asking your partner, and you do not want to scare him if it is a false alarm. They should be able to do one for you for free.
Good luck
Tiger
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Sorry.. you can ignore the first post i made. I don't know why there's half of my message and then my whole message..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): If you don't have money for a test and you don't want ot bring the subject up for nothing (in case you end up not being pregnant) then do you have health insurance? Becuase your doctor should be able to test you without your having to pay. do you see a gyno? That's how i found out i was pregnant, not on purpose even. If you don't have health insurance, can you go with your mom? Go to her and tell her about it and maybe she'll take you out to get a test and be supportive. I don't know your family though.
I was 18 when igot pregnant and in no financial situation to pay for it either. Luckily, (lucky in one way only) my husband is in the army and is deployed right now while i am pregnant, meaning i get full health care for free and he gets paid a TON over the next year that he's gone.
I can't tell you if you pregnant or not. But that doeds sound a little like it. Women do have the feeling of a period wihtout there actually being blood. One of the earliest symptoms is your breasts will hurt, i believe about a month to 6 weeks in. It may be too early for a test to tell right now.
If you are pregnant, then you just need to be strong about it and do what needs do be done. Get a job, don't tell them youre pregnant, work for as long as you can to make as much money as possible, and enroll in the WIC prgram. That's VERY easy to do and you'll get free food and supplies. It's amazign.
You can do this. If your boyfriend loves you, it will be alright. He has the right to know, and the longer you keep it from him, the more he may end up feeling hurt that you kept it. If it's a good relationship, then you should feel comfortable with him like this. Just be straight forward.. take a deep breath.. and say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): If you don't have money for a test and you don't want ot bring the subject up for nothing (in case you end up not being pregnant) then do you have health insurance? Becuase your doctor should be able to test you without your having to pay. do you see a gyno? That's how i found out i was pregnant, not on purpose even. If you don't have health insurance, can you go with your mom? Go to her and tell her about it and maybe she'll take you out to get a test and be supportive. I don't know your family though.
I was 18 when igot pregnant and in no financial situation to pay for it either. Luckily, (lucky in one way only) my husband is in the army and is deployed right now while i am pregnant, meaning i get full health care for free and he gets paid a TON over the next year that he's gone.
I can't tell you if you pregnant or not. But that doeds sound a little like it. Women do have the feeling of a period wihtout there actually being blood. One of the earliest symptoms is your breasts will hurt, i believe about a month to 6 weeks in. It may be too early for a test to tell right now.
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