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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I recently spent a couple days at his place. He's a bit of a mommas boy so of course his mom goes over to clean his apartment and finds my underwear in his sheets. I'm completely mortified! I don't want her to think badly of me :( what do I do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 August 2014):
 Nothing, what you want to do ?... He may be a Momma's boy, but she knows that if he is old enough to live alone he's also old enough to have a sexual life and women who visit his bed and forget their panties there :).
I don't think it will have come as too much of a shock, and even if it was ( some moms like to think that their kids will stay also anagraphically kids forever ) - then it was a good shock, a mom needs to be able to deal with reality and call a spade a spade.
As for what she may think of you, it depends what you mean. If she thinks that you are absent minded and a bit untidu untidy , - and that when you sleep in other people's beds you should be careful not to leave your dirty underwear there, for the person who cleans up to find,- it's hard to disagree with that , but , hey, who's perfect .
If you mean that you feel ashamed about her finding out that you are sexually active and shag her son- I am a always a big proponent of " own your actions ". Either you think there is nothing wrong in what you are doing and it's nobody's business , so don't give it a second thought( just next time, keep track of your underwear ). If you feel for some reason you SHOULD not be sexually active, or at least that people should not know or imagine that you are... then you should NOT be sexually active to begin with, if you know what I mean.
But all in all, if it's just about having forgotten an item of lingerie at your boyfriend's place, so what, big freaking deal.
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reader, Behavioural Analysis  +, writes (17 August 2014):
 She knows you're a young woman and he's a young man, she won't be surprised.
Though, you should consider if you want to be with a man who acts like a boy by not cleaning up after himself, and will need a replacement mother - a.k.a you - if you move in together in future.
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