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writes:i need help real bad!!!! im 13 and my bf is 17 my mom just recently found out and now she is telling me that i have to break up with him. i know im too young for him but im in love with my boyfriend he is just so perfect and he is not the kind of guy who is pressuring me to do things i dont want to do. but my mom said no. i dont know what to do i fell in love with my bf and he loves me too i have been so depressed ever since we still talk and stuff but keeping him hidden from my mom is just not right i love him so much i know im too young and that i have a whole life ahead but i found love in this guy why cant my mother understand that its not like im going to have sex with him or anything i just want to be with him
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reader, gay boy  +, writes (9 April 2009):
talk to your mum you only get one mum at the end of the day. but id go ahead and be with him just be carful hun dont do nawt stupid im in the same boat as you my bf is 18 and my mum dose not want me to be with hi so muh so she leverd me and kiked me out but im not going to brake up with me just talk to him and to here and do your best kk !!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Your mom is Right.He is WAY to old for you.He moght not tell you to do anything but if something does happen and your mom finds out she can report him and he will be arrested.It will be way more eaisier to break up with him and find someone closer to your age and have your moms approval.When you bacome a mom of your own you will understand.
God Bless.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (5 February 2009):
you may not realise it now, but when you are older you will see that your mum is right about you and him. he is far too old for you. you may say you are not going to have sex with him, but not many 17 year old boys not want to have sex. if you do have sex with him your mum could report him to the police and he could be arrested and go to jail for rape of a minor. sure you think you are in love, but you are only 13. you're still a child, you have your whole life in front of you. there will be plenty of great loves to come. you need to look at the bigger picture. also soon he may go to uni and meet girls his own age and find that he does not have much in common with a 13 year old girl. i don't understand why a much older guy would want to be with a girl who has just started as a teenager. there's a big difference in 13 and 18. i couldn't even imagine going out with someone so young. it's kind of disturbing. if he makes any sexual attempts then he could also end up on the sex offenders register for life. as you are a minor...therefore still a child.
listen to your mum, she is right!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Your Mom is trying to do what is best for you. She is just concerned as any Mom would be, that a 17 year old boy is interested in such a younger girl. On paper, it seems a little creepy, sweetness. I really hope he's not wanting to have sex with you, because then he's crossed the line and I'll agree with your Mom - he's not right for you! But, if your relationship is innocent and based on you two having fun together...
If your boyfriend really wants to build a relationship with you, he's going to need to work for it. You can not keep hiding him from your Mom, because she'll find out about it and when she does she'll never trust you again - not to mention, she'll REALLY have a reason to not trust or like your boyfriend.
Break up with him, or at least shed the title of "boyfriend/girlfriend". Have him come over to your house for dinner and have him get to know your Mother. Have him around your Mom so that she can get to know him and understand why you like him so much. Arrange plenty of social occasions with him and the rest of your family, and let her get comfortable around him. Then, once he's shown his commitment to making her more comfortable, she may change her mind.
If he's not willing to do the work, then ditch him for good and find someone a little closer in age to you.
Good luck, sweetness!
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