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writes:pls help! missing my ex bf.. how should i deal with this?Question Details: anybody who got hurt in love and can understand my state pls reply this.. this is not joke and im in a very sad mood...i feel like calling my ex bf...im feeling restless and despirately want to hear his voice...i was studying economics, my exams are two months away....i feel terrible and i dont want to cry thinking abt him...its been many months since we broke up.... we broke up on something huge... he decided to never to forgive me for a huge sin which he think i did but i did not commit. i wasnt at fault at all....god knows thatand he punished me even when i tried to clear things and left me.. thats why i will also wont forgive him..but i feel lonely... when i pick up my mobile, i feel what will i say! if i call gathering courage i know he will humilaite me to the core and then what will happen, i will cry whole night and waste my time..pls tell me how to deal with such feelings? i really dont want to cry..
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reader, vivian william  +, writes (20 March 2011):
*long Hug* for u before i start.Pls confide in a good friend. Ask her to be there for you for the next couple of months. Whenever u feel Shitty n lonely, call yr friends up, do some Exercises(exercising helps u to change the chemicals in yr brain)pls research more on it. And hang around yr friends most of the time. If u stay at home, curled up in a corner crying, u would call him up.(or worst lose yr sanity)Do not contact him for at least 3 weeks.Its without a doubt hard but i believe that u r strong.After 3 weeks u may call yr ex back (the best part is that uv by end of that time, regain yr perspective back and appear strong in his eyes.) He wont persive u as being desperate or clingy in that way.-love
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reader, xseraxroxx  +, writes (19 May 2009):
I'm in the same situation. I tried getting involved in more activities, such aas a second job or sport. This helps me keep my mind off of him for a while. But my situation is confusing, I still like him, but I would never date him again because he broke my heart too much. Just think, do you seriously need that stupid guy in your life to live? You might have a good family to worry about, or great friends, or even a nice talent. Ah! Sorry if I'm not helping. This is just reminding me of my ex! Okayy, bye(: Hope I helped.
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reader, Cosy  +, writes (11 March 2008):
I'm goign through a similar thing at the moment, where my boyfriend and i broke up over something he thinks was HUGE but, although bad, wasn't that awful at all... ( at least not after a year and a half of being together).
Im struggling with the..keep the phone on the hook thing and keeping my head down when I cross his path, but I know for his sake it would be easier for me to not call, all he wants is to forget me, and i know all I can do know is to respect that. ( he feels he has no other reason to respect me).
Is really difficult and for me it was has been 2 and a half months and i still cry every day, nobody else ever truly understands and it is so hard and so unique for everyone.. but if you can, stay strong because time does heal (a bit) and if it doesn't heal, it allows distance and thats probably what you both actually need. Good luck, feel free to msg me!Xx
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reader, Cosy +, writes (11 March 2008):
I'm goign through a similar thing at the moment, where my boyfriend and i broke up over something he thinks was HUGE but, although bad, wasn't that awful at all... ( at least not after a year and a half of being together). Im struggling with the..keep the phone on the hook thing and keeping my head down when I cross his path, but I know for his sake it would be easier for me to not call, all he wants is to forget me, and i know all I can do know is to respect that. ( he feels he has no other reason to respect me). Is really difficult and for me it was has been 2 and a half months and i still cry every day, nobody else ever truly understands and it is so hard and so unique for everyone.. but if you can, stay strong because time does heal (a bit) and if it doesn't heal, it allows distance and thats probably what you both actually need. Good luck, feel free to msg me!Xx
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reader, Arcada +, writes (6 March 2008):
Hi, I know what you are going through, I am going through a similar situation. You have to do something to help yourself, because that restless state that you are in us unbearable! Believe me I know!Everyone is different, I needed medication because I fell into depression. I attend meetings with a counseller. Also I can recommend a good self-help book called I can mend your broken heart, by Paul Mckenna.I have a feeling that your ex used this excuse of blame to break up with you. Love isnt just about love its about believing in someone and if he doesnt believe in you then he really isnt worth it,Message me anytime I am here for you!xx
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reader, futurelawyer +, writes (6 March 2008):
i would call him, he probably wants to talk but won't call you because of pride. I'm in a similar situation yet reversed. The problem with me is that my ex gf won't even talk to me when i try to call. You still have a chance, keep that in mind, its a lot worse when you dont. I try to put myself in social environments to take my mind of of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): If it has been many months since you broke up and you are still having these intense feelings of sadness then you need first to tell your doctor to see if you might have fallen into depression, if so possibly just some talk therapy would help you deal with all you are experiencing and help you to move on from this, or you could genuinely be depressed and need some medication to get over it....depression, the illness can be triggered by life events, there is no need to suffer like this, so get to your doctor and be honest about how you feel.
From what you say, your boyfriend made it clear it was over, I wouldn't contact him it may open you up to more hurt feelings, let him contact you, but let's hope he won't, he wasn't very kind to you.
Take care, feel better.
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