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writes:Dear cupids, my boyfriend just recently joined the airforce... He has been there for 4 weeks now, its getting easier but it still hurts so much now that he is away all the time.. we hardly talk because he is busy all the time and tired. I cant help but get angry at the airforce for putting this pressure on our relationship! when i get angry tho it annoys my bf and makes him fustrated because he cant do anything... i have been with him for 4 years now sp we have a solid relatio ship but it is so hard!so please help me.. for those who have been here before, how do you cope with this??????any advice would be great... I dont want to bring him down when its hard for him too... but i need to tlk to someone! Reply to this Question
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reader, Rose22 +, writes (13 June 2013):
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Thank you very much for your answer :) i have been trying really hard to keep busy and occupy myself and you comment helps me understand that this is what i need to do. There is nothing more i want than to support him and help him in life, this will be hard i know bu i hope that in the end it will all be worth it :) I think it would be nice if there was like a support group for those wives and gfs that have their men in the military as i agree it is a hard job.
I am very proud of my partner as not only is he pursuing his dream career he is also aiding in the protection of this country :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (12 June 2013):
 Rose: When I was living in Norfolk, I learned that the SECOND most-dfficult job "in the military" was being a military WIFE. No sane woman would marry a soldier/sailor/airman/marine or coastie......!!!!!
I misunderstood your submittal, some... and congratulate you on your understanding of just where the cards lie in your's and B/F's relationship.... It's NOT a cake-walk to be in love with a military man....
Sooooooo, your means of coping with that horrible time, during which YOU are by yourself, whilest HE is doing his military obligations.... will call on you to find those activities that will keep you occupied, and take your mind off your loneliness and wishes..... I always suggest that there are myriad opportunities to volunteer your time/talends and efforts to help those who ARE EVEN WORSE OFF (IN LIFE) THAN YOU ARE!!!! .... at a school, library, soup kitchen.... Keep occupied and help make the World a better place... whilest your MAN isa doing his part to accomplish the same....
My "Thank you" to your B/F is because he has taken on a daunting task by entering the military. He is entitled to that (a "thank you")!!!! .... as are YOU, for standing by him during these less-than-ideal times....
Good luck to the two of you. May he stay safe, you stay sane.... and may you have a great future, together....
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reader, Rose22 +, writes (11 June 2013):
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Thank you for answering, as for your comment on growing up, well i have some information for you. just for your information I have been apart from him for the last 3 years while he has been at school so yes that hurts but its not the main issue. I wanted help on how to cope with the limited talking time and him being tired a lot of the time. I dont want to be judged, as I am not a little child and know how to cope with long distance. We have a relationship thanks and its great but as the military does it puts strain on it. I also dont know what the comment is thanking my bf? If anyone could offer advice as to their experiences that would be great :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 June 2013):
The Air Force is NOT in-place to accomodate you, your boyfriend, and the relationship that you and he have. It is a MILITARY organization... and your boyfriend joined them of his own free will.....
NOW,... grow up a bit and understand that you (and he) are going to have to endure a bit of time away from each other... AND, at the end of THAT time, you and he will be in a position to determine how you (and he) want to advance this relationship that you have....
Good luck.... and thanks to your boyfriend....
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