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writes:I have been married for almost two years. We have been together for 6. I am 27 years old and we have no kids. I love my husband but recently I have met up with an old boyfriend who also is married to an old friend of mine. First me and his wife went out to dinner a few times and we had so much fun together, we thought it would be a good idea to introduce our husbands. They invited us over for dinner and the whole time I felt uncomfortable. I have never felt that way with an ex boyfriend plus we never even had sex. There was this crazy sexual tension between us. We all then went to a concert and he and I talked a lot. Mostly remembering high school and talking about our puppy love. Him and his wife bickered the entire night and he seemed annoyed at her the whole time. I had a dream about him the other night and I feel so guilty. I wanted to see if it was just a fluke seeing him for the first time in 7 years, so I invited them over for dinner. Good idea or bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): It is a bad idea when your intentions of inviting them over is met with discomfort. Sounds like the person with the most discomfort here is you and the way this is going, I don't think it will end well and you will end up losing everything you have. Sounds like you are infatuated with the past then with the present. It's nice and all but you are only inviting them to see if seeing him after 7 yrs was a fluke? Err ya...bad idea. And seems like he loves his wife very much. You sure you aren't just jealous? Be careful of the water you are treading dear, I may be over exaggerating a lot but I know how a lot of these stories end.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 September 2009):
If you're having feelings for him, bad idea. You're both married. You've been married for two years, and this is one of the moments where your marriage will really need a lot of work. Remember everything that is good about your husband and focus on him. Don't be alone with this other man, or you might give into temptation. Then you will lose your husband, your friend and you might find that this guy isn't even the right one for you. Don't risk what you have. You may lose everything. Also, this guy may just use you as an outlet for problems with his own marriage. Everyone will just end up hurt.
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