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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. We never had any major problems but my boyfriend surprised me by saying he doesn't know if he loves me anymore and wanted to take a break to get his head together.In the meantime, I met someone (a relative of a friend) and we hooked up. I cant stop thinking about this guy...However, he did not attempt to get my phone number. I mean we're "facebook" friends now but hasn't attempted to send me a message or anything but according to my friend he has been talking about me...Maybe he's not trying because of my recent breakup??Anyway after a 2 week break, my boyfriend is back in the picture, telling me how much he misses and loves me and how he made a mistake. He is acting so sweet and loving and says I'm the only one for him. I told him I would be willing to work things out but can't stop thinking about this new guy (who hasn't attempted to even hang out with me again)Not sure what to do...
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (29 March 2010):
It's understandable you fell for another guy whilst you were on a break, it must have hurt that your boyfriend rejected you.
I think you definitely should try and work things through if your relationship as otherwise been good. 6 years is a long time!
Maybe if you are able to communicate properly with your boyfriend well you can mention about this other boy, and say you were "tempted" to see where things went. I don't say this to play games with him, but rather he will realise that there are actually other men out there that want you, and also that you have the opportunity to be with someone else too and you "choose" him. This would certainly remind him how precious you should be to him and he won't be in a hurry to ever want a break with you again!
So stick it out with your boyfriend. Plan some time together, can you get away for a long weekend? Try and experience some happy new memories and talk about old fun times when you first got together. This should really help sort out any issues you have/had. If you have tried all this, and you are still wondering about the other boy, then perhaps it's a sign that your current relationship isn't meant to be. All the best!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 The new guy probably learned about your case and is not eager to jump in.It is just a passing fancy and you should focus back on your ex.
A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (29 March 2010):
If you love your boyfriend then stay if only after 2 weeks you find yourself wanting to be in the arms of someone else then there was really no love for this relationship. 6 years is a long time to through away for someone you just met in two weeks on the net.
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