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writes:I've been chatting with this guy for about 8 months on AIM who I met through a movie forum. We're both from BC but live about an hour away from each other and have never met. I like him quite a bit, but we have only chatted as friends, although I had hoped that maybe when we one day met up, that things could go further than just online buddies. I found out about a week ago that he recently got a girlfriend and now our chats have gone from daily to twice in the past week. I know the most likely thing is that he doesn't have a clue how I felt, but I am still really upset. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): thank you for your honest responses guys. does anyone have anything that can help me intially getting over it? i just keep kicking myself that i didn't actually tell him before all this.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 I am not trying to be rude but I am going to say it like it is. Please try to understand!
I realize that you have spent a lot of time chatting with this guy and you think you have feelings for him. But the truth is, you don't really know him. I dont think it is wise to meet someone off the internet (I have had many bad experiences). On the net, you tell these people about your life and they tell you about theirs. You think you are close, you think you have connected with someone. But you will be suprised how much you really dont know if you were to meet him, trust me!
You need to think about what you want in a guy. If you have no idea who this person REALLY is, then how do you know you want something more? I would just keep it as online friends. Dont get yourself upset about someone who you dont even know.
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (27 May 2008):
Meeting someone in the flesh is rarely ever the same as chatting online. Someone who seems your ideal man online isnt likely to live up to your expectations in real life so you should always treat these situations with caution.
As you've said, this guy in now part of a relationship and has been sidelining your chats. But you are still in regular contact with him so dont feel hurt it obiously still has time for you.
Go out and meet other guys and continue your chats with this guy. If and when he becomes single again, tell him how you feel, if he is a good friend he will understand and let you know how the situation stands.
And obviously, be careful as not everyone online is who they say they are.
Good luck
xxx
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