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writes:Hi. I am a 17 year old male. lately, me and this girl who I am pretty much best friends with have been sleeping together quite frequently. At first it was just casual sex, but i eventually developed a lot of other feelings for her from being around her so much and everything. She is not sure if she wants to continue what we've been doing, but I don't know how to tell her how I feel since she is my best friend. I want to be with her, I love her to death, but I just don't know if we can meet each other half-way on this. I want her to know how I really feel but I don't know how to convey it to her, because of our friendship staus. Any advice?
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 ok theirs a few things here really. she maybe stopped the intercourse due to she was maybe progressing feelings for you and ddnt want to get in too deep encase you didnt. or maybe she thinks its unfair to herelf and you it could be a mixture on her behalf..if it was me i would be honest with her and tell her how you feel i know its hard but ide express that i value our friendship, but ive developed more stronger feelings for and wondered how you felt about that..before you started having sex you both must of valued each other highly or you wouldnt of done it, so what do you have to loose ask yourself and you shall find the answer you seek. thats my opinion aphexy
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 May 2008):
 So you're best-friends-with-benefits, is that right? And you've developed feelings of love for her. And she doesn't want to continue the sex part, do I understand that correctly? Or is it that she wants to end the friendship?
I think there's nothing else for it but to have a good heart-to-heart talk with her. You could approach it as a best friend would, by telling her that there's something you need to discuss with her and get her input on it. Then you can tell her that you think your feelings are starting to grow deeper for her.
If you don't communicate with her, then she'll never know how you truly feel, and you might miss a great opportunity to have a real, full relationship with your best friend AND the girl you love. That's a nice combination, I think. If you don't tell her, she may never know, and find another guy who does talk to her about his feelings. I don't think you'd want to risk that, would you?
If you two are good friends already, having an air clearing talk shouldn't end the friendship, if it is done with love, calmly and supportively. What do you have to lose?
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