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anonymous
writes:Just wondering how different does masturbating feel comparing to real sex for men. I am not talking about the emotional but strictly the physical aspect of it. Such as the difference in sensation between using a hand and thrusting in a vagina and if there is a difference in the intensity of orgasm. I ask because as a woman, I personally prefer masturbating because I get much more intense orgasms doing it my way. I am also interested in understanding what prompts a man in long distance relationship to cheat, on the sole basis of sex (ie, not because he is emotionally lonely), or a sexually frustrated man to go to prostitutes. If the desire for sex is simply a relief of sexual tension (I am also interested in the feeling of this tension), why doesn't masturbation suffice? Does the real thing really feel THAT much better? And if so, please describe how it is different.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (3 August 2008):
The other replies have made the points I'd write.
But I think your qualifying comment,
"I am not talking about the emotional but strictly
the physical aspect of it."
makes it something of a trick question. When masturbating I have much more control over the stimulation, its timing, intensity, etc. My climax from masturbation IS more physically intense, but less fulfilling (and I'm making a subtle distinction between 'fulfillment' and 'satisfaction') than orgasm with my wife.
People have made that sort of claim for decades, and physiologists have said it's entirely a mental distinction since the stimulation is the same. I think some recent research shows there's a slightly different mix of hormones, neurochemicals, etc. released during intercourse versus masturbation. Nobody yet has any ideas how or why this should be, but it may provide an explanation for what we've been saying all along.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 A decent L has given a very good answer. I can't improve on that. I will focus, however, in you, poster. You seem to want an answer that's purely mental, a sort of 1-2-3, as if lovemaking was just a mechanical thing. That's not the way to approach this.
Also, your questions make me think that you were in a long-distance relationship, he had sex for someone else, and you're trying to make sense of all that. If this is the case, then you might need help on those issues, rather than masturbation. You would need to look at a much wider picture. If you need that help, here we are.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Masturbation is actually 'nothing' in comparison to the REAL THING. The warmth and wetness inside the vagina cannot be matched by anything. Even i blow job does'nt rank near the intercourse.The feeling of entering inside a woman's vagina cannot be matched. And if you LOVE the girl you're having sex with, it makes it even Better. Masturbation cannot really be matched with the real sex. There is a lot more like kissing, licking, sucking, etc in sex which excites you to the maximum level before you have an intercourse. I Do Not believe that frustrated men go to prostitutes. Men with no girlfriend at the age of 20 or above do go there for pleasure. Some go for sheer excitement, to know how it feels. A few go because they have a lot of money and a girl satisfies you more than your hands.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Can't explain how ejaculation feels better when engaged in sex rather than masturbation even though it's the same thing....it just does.
Not all men cheat in a long distance relationship. If he does, then that ain't the man for you.
I am sure you are not implying it, but not all (amend; hardly any) sexually frustrated men go to prostitutes.
Women often get more pleasurable orgasms when masturbating because a woman reaching climax by masturbation is a more intensive experience i.e. it takes more work. All a man has to do is move his wrist up and down for 2 minutes and then he goes back to whatever he was doing.
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