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writes:Is it possible to train myself to get multiple orgasms? Or is this something that you're born with, either you can get it or you can't. I have no problem getting very intense orgasms, but usually after the initial climax followed by a string of tingling/shuddering feeling, which dies down rather quickly as my clitoris becomes too sensitive to stimulate. By multiple orgasms, does it mean that you can get that initial climax feeling over and over again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): One woman who I dated could have only one orgasm, but it was a really intense one, more than anyone else I was ever with. My wife can have multiple ones with oral. Normally her second one is the best and then they lessen after that. She has anywhere from 1 to 5 that way. Like you, she is sometimes too sensitive to go on after the first one, but normally she has 2 or 3. She can then have another with intercourse if I stimulate the right area. When she was younger, like 30s, she was more sensitive and was less likely to allow me to continue after the first oral orgasm. Perhaps it was just that I was not as tender as I am now. I'm not sure. Maybe I was a little rough back then. I have also learned how to stimulate her G-spot and use a G-spot vibrator since we were younger, so that helps a lot. Rubbing her G-spot with 1 or 2 fingers makes it better for her. I think that I can use less perssure with my tongue whan I do that. Since we have been at it for many years, it's hard to say exactly what I have changed.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 In my opinion, most women are quite capable of multiple orgasms. In fact, women are uniquely endowed, physically and emotionally, to enjoy a series of two or more such pleasures IF they happen to marry, date or know a man who knows now to help her achieve them.
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reader, daletom +, writes (3 August 2008):
According to the "Come Again" entry in the classic work "The Joy of Sex", the majority of women - perhaps even most women - are capable of having more than one climax in the (roughly) 10 to 60 minutes that people spend in a lovemaking session. The main factors seem to be your desire to do so, and discovering the mechanics of technique that best achieve it.
Before we were married I don't think my wife ever had more than one orgasm per lovemaking session. That was probably due to the anything-but-intercourse pattern we used in our premarital lovemaking more than any other factor. After we were married we made a definite effort to teach her to have several orgasms. It certainly required me to reduce the directness and intensity of stimulation after her climax. And we had to learn to be more deliberate in our sexual communication regarding what we wanted from the other in way of stimulation, what was or wasn't working, etc. I think it took 3 or 4 sessions before we finally achieved it and another couple of weeks before we could do it regularly, without putting a lot of thought and effort into it.
Each of her orgasms is definitely a climax. In her typical response pattern, one is more intense than the others - usually the 2nd or 3rd. Often she can tell which is "the big one" just as it starts and she may (or may not) especially want me inside her as it happens. Sometimes it's the first, or there may be several smaller ones building up to the main one - after which she's rather spent and simply asks me to "please finish".
About half a dozen times (over 34 years) she has experienced something I've heard called "sequential orgasm". This is when orgasms start before the previous one has finished, giving her no chance to relax or catch her breath. When it ends after 6 - 8 orgasms, she is quivering and sobbing, can't speak, loses consciousness for a few seconds, and only wants to sleep. The first time it happened it scared the hell out of me - I truly thought she had suffered a seizure, heart attack, or even died. I actually had the phone in hand, calling for help, when she came around.
For somebody of a generation that was told how female orgasm - of any description - was an uncertain thing that required a fair amount of effort to achieve, it's amusing, and almost disgusting, that she has probably had 2 or 3 orgasms for each of mine over 34 years of marriage. And that includes all the times when she has said "Enjoy me - this time is for you.".
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