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writes:Hey Everyone,I'm 18, and I'm meeting my boyfriends Dad for the first time in a few days. (my boyfriend is my age too)I'm actually staying with them for 2 weeks, so I just wondered whether anyone could give me some advice on how to act, whether I should buy a "Thank you for having me to stay" gift or anything like that.Your advice is MUCH appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 March 2009):
All dads want to know that their boy has a girl who
a) cares about them (obviously)
b) will look after them (is the marrying kind)
c) is smoking hot (male pride thing)
So be polite, wear something flattering but not too sexy, offer to make cups of tea and say things like "Oh don't get up I'll get it!" and just try not to be awkward.
He'll want to see that you get on with his son really well so don't cut down on the hand holding and the gazing up at him.
It's old fashioned but if they want to go off and do guy stuff like fishing or watching sport in a bar, you could offer to stay at home and cook dinner for their return.
I know it's a bit patronising to say Be in the Kitchen, but he'll have seen and been with high maintenance girls and will be thinking that long term he wants his boy to be with someone who can be a bit domestic.
Normally I would be like "screw that I want to go to a bar too!" but doing it just the once or twice during the 2 weeks will make you look like really good.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 My BF's dad recently flew me out to their home for a week over New Years. We didn't hit it off at all, but I still sent them a thank you card and some pictures from our trip.
Just be yourself, but remember that you still need to be the girl that your BF can bring home to meet his parents. Just mind your P's and Q's until you get a better read on his dad to figure out what is a more appropriate way to act. You don't have to be fake, but you can tailor yourself to fit his personality more.
I'd send a nice thank you after your visit. You don't want to show up there with a box of chocolates and find out he's diabetic or allergic to peanuts or something random.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Be on your best behavior, but because of your relationship don't act too stiff! Dad's going to want to see how the two of you get along. Be yourself, just a well-mannered version of yourself.
And yes, bring a small gift. Something the dad may like, chocolates you can all share, something like that.
Think of it as an extended stay with a long-distance relative you don't know too well. You can act the way you always do, just tempered a bit!
Have fun XX
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