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writes:I'm meeting my boyfriends family for the first time tomorrow, with the exception of his sister, who I went to school with, and I'm so nervous I feel sick.I have been invited for a family lunch at his dad's house, so there will be his dad, step mum, two sisters and his step brother, as well as his sister's boyfriend.I don't know why I'm so nervous but I am. I really like my boyfriend, and I want to impress his family. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 months and things are starting to get more and more serious.I know his dad is a huge sports fan but I don't know anything about sports, and that he works within the local council, his step mum works in a school. I don't really have anything in common with them regards to that, and I'm scared I won't know what to say.Like I said I went to school with his sister but we weren't friends and we never talked or anything unless we had to. It's not like I don't like her, I just don't know her well enough to start a conversation.Also, do I take a gift? My boyfriend has told me to just bring a bottle of something if I want to but I don't need to, and that his step mum would ask why I bothered bringing something when they invited me, This isn't the first relationship I have had, it's just the first time there has been a proper introduction to their family. Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (23 August 2014):
 Yes do take something, I would never turn up empty-handed at anyone's place.
Don't be nervous...they're just ordinary people like you and me! The key to your nervousness is when you say, "I want to impress his family". That's where the pressure builds.
Forget that you want to impress them in any way. Just be yourself and go there with an open mind and a ready smile. They'll love you anyway because their son loves you and even if they don't, eh, who cares? Why does their opinion matter so much to you in any case?
Compliment the food but don't go overboard, say that you love the way they've done up the house, smile and be nice. Just dont across as trying to please them too much because then you'll just look needy and pathetic. As I said, dont try too hard but just be yourself.
Have a fabulous day! Let us know how it goes!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 August 2014):
 For a family lunch I wouldn't bring a bottle of anything alcoholic. If bringing anything, Id keep it very simple, and something that goes well with a lunch. But if I were you, Id not bring anything. You're arriving with your boyfriend, yes? So that means you as a couple can either bring something or not, but you, in singular, don't bring anything. Either you as a couple bring something together, or you don't. And if your boyfriend says not to bring anything, then don't.
As for what to talk about, just keep to small talk and then take it from there, like you would in any other social gathering. Most probably they will be asking you lots of questions, so instead of worrying what to ask them, prepared for how to answer intrusive questions instead. A good method when caught off guard is to slow your speech so you will have time to formulate yourself well. Just talk slow, and you will come off as reflected and well formulated. Don't go for any smart ass comments or trying to be funny. Humor is very tricky when you don't know your audience.
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