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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 I don't understand why kids at your age want to have sex. It will NOT be fun and it will NOT be pleasurable.
But wait...my spidey senses detect a fake post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Dear, you two are too young. I am 17 and me and my boyfriend of two and a half years have talked about sex and we both decided NOT to, even though hes had sex with multiple partners before me. Alot can happen and not just of babies but the emotional issues at hand. So many people i know who have engaged in sex 1st off usually dont stick with their 1st time lover they end up sleeping with the next guy/girl and they all say it they shouldnt have done it with so and so and these are people i mean who are older than 12 up to like 20's and were really head over heels in love in one case engaged for a long time and few years down the road split up before married and she regrets sleeping with him and with my boyfriend there have been our moments when we want to and are about to but one of us takes responsibility and ends it because we both know somewhere along the lines only bad can come from it somewhere along the lines. Its all about love and respect really you love your girl you got to think about her and even thoguh she wants to, realize it can do damage to her if you love her then wait
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Haha yeah ask his parents if he can have sex and whats parenting like.
To be honest your girlfriend is probably at the moment too young and incapable of having sex with you and therefore getting her pregnant, and to be honest so are you.
Remember ADULTS do this kind of stuff. If you want to mess around with adult stuff be prepared for adult consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): U prepared to be a daddy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Your 12! Are you crazy?.... Sorry no advice offered to people who I think are unwell... Twelve years old!!!!??? (Diovan shakes head in disbelief) You don't know what to do, of course you don't because YOUR ONLY TWELVE YEARS OLD!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): I think you are to young to have sex; enjoy holding hands, hugging and kissing;
BUT
if you disagree with me and all the other postings; I suggest you discuss this with your parents; maybe they will be prepared to give you more information on the FACTS of LIFE;
You will be studying more about it in Biology at higher levels;
Be PATIENT; to spoil your childhood and youth!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): There is more to dating and sexual activity than having full sex.
It's normal for there to be stages of dating. Holding hands, then kissing and hugging, then touching body parts, etc. This stuff used to get spread out over years.
It's messed up, people have just begun to think sexual intercourse starts as soon as any romantic relationship starts.
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reader, graciie;  +, writes (29 June 2008):
dont mean to sound harsh but you shouldnt be having sex if your dont know your, where, wear, we're 's.
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Don't. If you want to experiment adultry you just have to wait till' your mature enough to be in a older position even you can't deticate when or where to have it as your still too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): omg u need to enjoy life at 12.wait for sex cuz u might get her pregenent and your life will suckk
the time will come..dont worry i know u cant wait.but dont rush into things just love each other
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Go study - Don't have sex.
Wait until you hit puberty before you even start THINKING about sex, you are FAR too young for that. You don't even know what you want in life, why ruin your youth when you have your whole life ahead of you?
You could get your girlfriend pregnant! Are you ready to be a father at 12?
Forget about the sex. Just cuddle and kiss - waiting until you're LEGAL age of consent won't kill you.
xo
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reader, Livinglifedaybyday +, writes (27 June 2008):
I know that you must be looking at all of our answers and thinking that we don't understand and that you are truly are ready for this and that you and your girlfriend really love each other and etc, but please hear us out. Having sex is a huge responsibility that should be done by responsible older people. Anything could happen. What would you do if you got your girlfriend pregnant! You would ruin your life before you even get to high school! If you truly love your girlfriend then you can wait till your older (17 at the LEAST!!)and can take all neccessary precautions (even tho those aren't even 100% safe). There are many other things that you can do for now (if you insist on doing something) that would be much safer. Take care of yourself and enjoy being young! Don't grow up too fast you will get there eventually.
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reader, kutie0712 +, writes (27 June 2008):
YOU ARE 12!!! Are you and your girlfriend crazy? What if something goes wrong? What if she gets pregnant? She could die!! If you want to have sex then you are making the worst mistake of your life! Think about this so hard. I am 14 and I am not even thinking about that with my boyfriend. It could hurt both of you so bad. Think about it please
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reader, NL +, writes (27 June 2008):
Hiya there mate, I think the other answers given are a bit rude. It is good of you to come forward and ask for advice! However, the reason the other Cupids have come across strongly is because they dont agree with having sex at 12. Most people dont have sex till they are 16 or 17 where im from. Then again its not unheard of to be a virgin at 21 or 22. What matters is you do it when you and your partner are ready! What I think is clear is that you arent. Although being inquisitive is good, it also means that you have doubts. What you really want is to be confident with yourself and having sex. Wait till the moment is right, be responsible, and whenever you do have sex use a condom! But for now, try to talk to someone a little older who is close to you so they can give you a more in depth answer - an older brother, or cousin maybe. Anyway, good luck mate.
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reader, Fasion victims +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Hey
Think about the possabilitys of having sex now, your a still young and have alot of your life to live, sex is a big commitment and at the age of twelve isnt somthing you should really be having..x
I understand you may want it, but its not always about the case of what you want its whats right and for 1 its against the law..x
I hope you can understand that waiting is a good thing, and if you 2 are willing to think and talk about that stuf then you oviously both like each other so why not wait a while and it will be more spechial because you waited when you do decided to have it..x
Tap bk and let us know how you get on..x
much love
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Go outside. Play. Leave the adult activities - and their consequences: pregnancy, disease - for when you’re an adult. You are not ready for this, I guarantee.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (27 June 2008):
 You are 12 and want to have sex, but are you 12 and want to have a baby? Remember, in many cases: sex=baby. When you get old enough to say to yourself "yeah, I can handle a big responsability", then, yeah, you are old enough. But, now? No.
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reader, Emilyneedshelp +, writes (27 June 2008):
 You know hun ur very young and should at least wait. You should think bout some stuff... You know like what if she gets pregnant and all that... Yaw should wait a lil longer yaw are so young... but if u ever need totlk or need advice then message me.. and best of luck
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 I can answer the 'when' for you - When you are both MUCH older!
I doubt either of you is experienced or mature enough to be able to handle a sexual relationship. Wait, and just enjoy being young.
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