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writes:Me and my boyfriend have broken up. We were together for 7-8 months. The reason we broke up is because he got a job in the mines and it wasn't a sudden decision to break up we did a lot of thinking and weighed out the pros and cons for each outcome. In the end my bf (or ex however you wanna say it) said the best choice was to break up because it would be to hard on the both of us. The job he has isn't like a straight forward set amount of work days he could be gone for months at a time without reception and no contact. He said in the long run it would be more heart breaking trying to stay together because we would miss each other and be out of contact. So we made the hard breaking decision to split. Its been a week and I'm in tatters. I miss him so much :( its like we didn't want this we didn't want to split but its not what we want its what's best. But we still talk everyday and he comes around still and still says he loves me and kisses me when we see each other since the split.I really want to be with him just I don't think we could handle long distance under the circumstances. But I just feel if we both love each other how can I get over him? I know I won't for ages it scares me. He said no matter what we will stay close friends but I can't just be friends.. Does anyone have any advice on what to do or have been in this situation? I'd really love to know cause right now just everydays a struggle to get out of bed knowing I can't be with the man I love :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): i am going through pretty much the exact same thing. except im moving abroad and thats why we arent together. its been almost two months and i feel the same as i did right at the start of the break up.i think that the relationship could work (as this is how i feel) if you want it to enough. if you love eachother as much as you think you do then you should try the long distance thing :)just to see how it goes, if it doesnt work then its obviously not ment to be.but dont push him away, no matter how hard it gets, becuase me and my ex cant be around eachother without bringing it all up again, and then we both get worked up abbout it, also my ex told me last night that he loves me more than anything but its too hard because im leaving, so just be careful you dont get into anything like that because the worst feeling in the world is knowing that you cant be together because of something thats out of your control (before last night i didnt fully undderstand how he was feeling)work on being friends if it doesnt work, because you dont want to loose him for good.im only judging this on my own experiences because i go for like a few days where im ok and then im an emotional wreck for abit. just dont give up hope, because like i said if its ment to be then you will be together eventually :) thats whats helping me get through my situation
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 If you love him and he loves you, why rather than splitting won't you give it a try ? Long distance relationship, and with periods of no contact too, are surely hard and difficult,and with less chances of a happy ending. Yet, where there is a will there is a way, and if you really want you could make it work. You fear that if you have to break up at some point in future you will be more heart-broken- but you sound quite heart broken right now as it is. Ask yr bf to reconsider.
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