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writes:*** HOW DO YOU MEND A BROKEN HEART? I have found out my boyfriend has been constantly lying to me about various things and has been cheating on me when he swore on his childs life that he hasnt. For weeks he has denied this and made me out to be paranoid, always accusing me of cheating when I have never done anything behind his back. I know I am better off without him and I know you will say times a great healer but how do I get rid of the knot in my stomach and the emptyness of going to bed at night. and the awful feeling of waking up in the morning and thinking everything is ok for a split second to then remember what he has done and be destroyed all over again??? Please someone help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up
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reader, xLiverpoolGirlx +, writes (4 May 2010):
xLiverpoolGirlx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't intent to get back with him I definitely have more respect for myself than to do that I know he'd do it again, and how low can someone be to swear on their childrens lives and look me in the face and lie? I know its over I am just really struggling with my emotions as we lived together and now I am left in a house full of memories and really finding it hard to cope on my own in a bed we shared that is now half empty. He keeps texting me telling me he misses me and asking me to marry him and turning up at the door I just wish he would leave me alone as I am missing him too but I know I have to move on I would never trust him. I just feel like every man in the world is a rat as I do not know of a single happy relationship where the man has stayed faithful maybe I am just being negative given the circumstances.
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reader, ewok1 +, writes (4 May 2010):
I totally understand where u r coming from. I am 25 and married and I have a five year old daughter to a guy who turned out to be a liar who is looking all over for sex. I have known about it for a long time but only now am I really facing up to the hurt and the pain. I dont know what the best advice is but all I know is that I cannot imagine ever really trusting him again. How can u build a relationship on that? It feels impossible. I feel so sad about how things have turned out I remember that it is because of his stupid actions, an his inability to deal with the truth .
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): You don't have to stay with him, especially if you know you'll constantly feel unhappy and depressed and let down because of what he did. Cheating is abusive, emotionally, no matter how you slice it, so if you feel in your heart that you'll always have an emptiness and pain inside, don't be with him. Get out of the relationship before you start to convince yourself he'll change or respect you more in the future. The fact that he tried to accuse you of the same thing and deny anything was happening shows that he'll easily make the same mistake all over again. He'll try to crawl back or make you feel sorry for him and take him back, but don't.. Find someone who will treat you with respect and honor you, not shame you. Once you feel you've had enough time and space away from him, go out and start dating again. Don't dwell on the past or assume the next guys will do the same thing. Go and enjoy looking for the next guy, and that positive distraction is what will mend your broken heart. I'm not saying to go and be promiscuous, but go out and seek someone you think might make you happy in life. In the process, stay away from anything that would remind you of him, and don't drink or party too much, while you're single, because alcohol and such will cause negative emotions more than positive ones, if you are coming from a really bad place with your emotions.
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