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writes:me and my bf have had dry sex and my m8 filmed it on her fone and she has showed loads of people, but as i am only 13 loads of people are calling me a slut. but the real problem is that my bf wants to do it again but im not sure now that people are calling me a slut , what should i do?
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reader, bobbins +, writes (12 April 2007):
just becuse people have found out about this you are not a slut however you are too young to be having any sort of sex with any body else you need to speak to your friend and ask her to delete it from her phone, you then need to speak to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and why u shouldnt be sleeping with him, if he is anoyed or presures you further, put this down to experiance and move on, good luck
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 With friends like that, who needs enemies? Too bad that phone doesn't have a cord ... you could strangle her with it.
In sexual situations, three is DEFINITELY a crowd at your age. Don't be doing it anywhere where someone else is going to be popping in on you. In fact you are probably not really ready for sex at all if you've got a boyfriend who is trying to pressure you into having another go after the bad experience you've already been through. He strikes me as VERY insensitive. I'm not one who would make a blanket statement that "sex at your age is wrong", but I WOULD say that sex for you, in the situation you're in now, would probably be a very bad idea.
Make every effort to get that video erased, and just hope she hasn't uploaded it to somewhere yet.
And you should try to keep yourself out of the sex arena for a while. Right now people are calling you a slut, and pretty soon, assuming you dump the guy who helped get you into this in the first place (which you probably should) a lot of guys are probably going to be hitting on you seeing if they can score with you because they think your "easy". The best way to rebuild your reputation is to turn down these offers and not do ANYTHING with ANYBODY for quite some time. Eventually you will get a reputation as a girl who "doesn't". That should take care of the rumors that you are a slut. Your reputation is tarnished. Only time and good (indeed, impeccable) behavior can restore that reputation.
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reader, maria14r +, writes (12 April 2007):
do wat YOU want not wat your man wants. until the day that you get married and your man is paying your rent bills and all that you need then you do what they want but till then dont let no one tell you what to do. remember that
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Get rid of your mate is the first thing.
Your young and before you carry on think about where this all leading.. Your boyfriend probably thinks he has a good thing but dont feel like you are pressured to doing these things.
There is plenty of time to progress sexually..
please think about what message you are giving your boyfriend? he will only want to progress things maybe faster than you want to. Stop it now to kerb his teenage lusts..
Just think about it, please..
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (12 April 2007):
 I would be more worried that this vidio clip fell into the wrong hands, like what would you parents say if they say if they saw this, im sure they would be devastated, as you are only 13.
Did your friend get some sort of pleasure out of filming this?. and did you know you were being filmed at the time?.
Ok so people are already saying things about you, i would decline you boyfriends offer to do it again. Otherwise you will get an even bigger name for yourself.
Put this down to a learning curve and don't be so silly in the future.
Good luck x
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reader, beanie0216 +, writes (12 April 2007):
 You're 13 honey you shouldn't be having sex, or dry sex. It's not a pleasant thing to do. Its supposed to be special with your partner, and romantic. Flaunting it around isn't so smart. I really don't think you should do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): No my dear, you should not, you are young and okay you made a mistake, but do not repeat it. Have your friend erase it from his / her phone. I know that when you are young, you want to experience all sorts of new ideas and things, that would be cool. Be careful of the things that you might think is cool. You need to respect yourself first, before you can others. You are definitely not a slut my dear. I would advice you not to so anything like this again. Sex is suppose to be a very beautiful, very private affair between two people inlove, not to have another person catching it on tape !!! Ask your so- called friend to stop and if she doesn't then ,maybe talk to an adult that you can trust, that friend cannot keep tarnishing you name like that, and worst yet showing your privacy to everyone. This terribly wrong. Good luck sweetie.
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