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writes:Hello I'm a 23 years old guy with a big problem well at least to me ! .. here is the whole story .. i used to go to some uni where i met this amazing beautiful girl whom i liked and loved but the problem is .. she's always with her friends .. our relationship consisted of HI,Good morning and Goodbye and i could not say a word or had the chance to talk to her in private cuz of her friends .. and after a year and a half in this uni i decided to transfer to another better uni not cuz its better its just because i wanted to move on and i did not want to see her since there was no chance talking to her .. after spending a summer course in the new uni she got my number from some people at my old uni and called me because its so hard to apply to this uni i'm currently in and i knew some people in high places who arranged everything for me .. she wanted me to help her get in .. well i did help her thinking oh yes its my chance to be with her alone and to be her good friend at first .. everything went just like i planned but in the past 2 months she met some new people and she became good friends with them and now i sit like a shmuck all by myself .. now i lost my chances of telling her how i feel .. and now our relationship returned to Hi's and bye's !!! we talk we we see each other but by chance ! like a 2 mins chat !! I really need help .. there is alot of eye contact and admiration between her and I ! but i cant seem to get the chance of talking to her alone ! what am I supposed to do now ! please I really love and care for this girl .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advices people thats really kind of u all :) i will try to make a move on her .. and yes we do go out on dates in my country .. even if we didnt and we were so ignorant but for sure we are not .. love will find its way in the end no matter the obstacles ! :) .. anyways thanks alot all and i will try to do as i'm told .
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Hate to burst your bubble here, pal, but you've missed that train. Once a girl asks for your help before you were intimate, you're in her "friends" pocket.
I'm not sure you can even get out of there. I never could.
And don't give damn excuses. That's just plain stupid. "Oh, I never had the chance". You've had million chances, but you never took them whether because you were too insecure or you've had too many doubts. That's okay though. Now you know that if you wait too long... well, you've waited too long and you've lost.
Get out there and start looking. Meet people and communicate. And when you meet someone you want to ask out, ask them out this time.
Best of luck
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reader, BurningIce13  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Well if you really love this girl then maybe you should start taking some steps =]I don't know if you have already tried this but let me know if you have. Have you tried for example just going to her and asking her "can we talk alone for a moment" or "can we talk in private" or something like that?If she is around others like usual like you say then how bout going up to her and whispering it in her ear. I know it seems silly...but try it. This is the girl you love we're talking about it so doing something is better then nothing right?Basically when whispering ask to talk to her alone and/or that you want to tell her something.Then if and when you get to talk to her alone you can tell her how you feel, to be honest and say that you can't seem to find a moment alone with her =] What do you think?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Don't you go out on dates in your country? Ask her out for some coffee or something.
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