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36-40,
*aby_caridee
writes:I have this problem. Maybe the reason why I find my boyfriend's best friend attractive is because I am unhappy with our relationship, because of my boyfriend's attitude: Sometimes, he so immature. He can't understand the reason why I am always lecturing him off his mistakes. But I still love him very much and I don't wannna hurt him. What is the best thing I should do? Should I tell him that we should try even more to have a happy relationship because I'm beginning to find other men attractive? Or should I just shut up and ignore this feeling? HELP.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Sometimes we find other people attractive because well, they are. It doesn't mean we have to act on it. If you love your b/f then focus your attention there. Try talking to him in a non-nagging way, about the things he does that bother you. Try giving him solutions to how he might do things differently. It could be that he really is immature and still has some growing up to do. Be patient. He doesn't need another mommy and that's a sure way to kill the romance. You will always find other people to be attractive, but it's the love, trust and bond you have with the person you are in the relationship with, that keeps you from chasing after every pretty face. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 You should try to do three things: Try to have a better relationship, try to stop lecturing the guy, and ignore your feeling. If your relationship doesn't work at all after you try the first two, well, it would still be awkward to have something with your boyfriend's best friend. I think he's off-limits to you anyways. But, if I were you, I would try to improve the relationship you have now, or then put an end to it.
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