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*URTNPISSED
writes:If you are in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you in the past and you come across a number in their phone, and when you talk to the person that the number belongs to and they tell you they have been having a sexual relationship with your mate. Your mate denies it all and continues to talk with this person from time to time saying they are just friends,m you ask your mate to not to have any communication with this person and they agree and always says when the number appears in the future that they don't have to tell this person not to call anymore because they never answer the phone anyway. Now a year later this number is still appearring and even with a new phone number your mate says that they still do not answer this persons calls and they do not know where that person got their new number. And still when you ask your mate to just ask this person to no longer call them they say "no its not that important to me so no". Is that how you prove innocence and rebuild trust? Reply to this Question
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reader, HURTNPISSED +, writes (27 April 2010):
HURTNPISSED is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your input I will keep you posted on what happens next.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 No it isnt. He is not being honest with you. If the other woman was forth coming last time and you know your partner is still lying to you, then ask her how she got his new number. That should clarify things for you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 April 2010):
Realistically, you know as well as I do that he's a lying cheat. Maybe that's not what you want to hear, but this is something that has to be faced. He's cheated on your before and now there is a number that belongs to a woman always popping up on his phone, and she's said that she cheated with him. Unless she is seriously deranged, which is a possibility, then he's cheated. And you already know he's done it before, so why wouldn't he do it again? I think you need to have a sit down and really work out whether you want to be second best for the rest of your life. You can do so much better.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 No it's not. It may be not that important to him- but obviously it is to you ,so he might as well do what you say just to put your mind at ease. After all, it's not like you are paranoid and controlling- he knows that he has betrayed your trust before therefore you have reasons to be concerned and he should be willing to do something to help you trust him again.
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