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writes:Hi, me and my ex seperated 2 years ago. In that time he has been with two other women but he comes back to me in between. Me and my ex hav always had a close bond even after the seperation. (we hav a child together to) anyway after he broke up with the first girl that he was seeing he came bak to me. We moved in together. Eventualy he went back to her. Said he was confused. It didnt last. He got his owm place and soon afta got with another girl. It didnt work and he recently dumped her. He started to call and txt me a lot more recently. We were talking a lot. Then the other nite he came over and told me he loved me and that he wanted to hav his family back. He said he had made so many mistakes. He wanted to make it right again. He kissed me and said that he could feel that the feelings were still there between us. We spent the night together, he seemed genuine and sincere. The next day he told me that he was very interested in seeing were things went between us but to take it slow coz he doesnt want to stuff it up this time. I agreed and then a couple ov days later he just went cold. He didnt txt. He went quiet. I askd him why? He said he needed time to sort himself out and that he thinks its best hes alone rite now. He just did a 360. It hurt me so much. Why the sudden change of heart? "Did he use me or was he just confused about what he thought he wanted"? Please help. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I am so sorry to tell you, but he is coming back because you are letting him. He will never be with you fully. He is using you so he won't be alone until he finds another girlfriend. But do not fret he will come back and use you again until he finds someone else. So you will see him again and be with him again, but you should realize that he is NEVER going to be with you. Why should he when he can call you and tell you anything and screw you and probably get things from you. So I have some good news and some bad news. The good news is he will be back. The bad news is he is going to come back when him and his new girlfriend does not work out. So you are just a rebound and I know it sounds cruel, but he will NEVER be with you. Why should he when he can go out get a girlfriend try her out for a year and then get back with you for a couple of weeks until he finds a new woman. And I call him a playa playa because he is not skipping a beat when it comes to getting sex when he has you right there to sleep with. But sweetie, you are his last resort when he does not have anyone else he knows he can call you. He may not even like the sex but as long as he know he won't be alone he has you there until he makes amens with his real girlfriend. The sooner you wake up the happier you will be. PEACE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): Thankyou to the first person who posted for your compassion. I appreciate your advice. Thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): sweety u need to dump him right now. from so many years he has taken u for granted and used u in many ways...u urself can see that after dumping his gfs he has come 2 u for love cuz he knows that anytime he comes to u , u'll accept him...dont spoil ur life gal...u hv a lot of life ahead with wonderful people...please dont waste ur precious time, emotions and tears on dis guy...good luck!!
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