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writes:i am 17 and i and this marrierd man are in love i mean he loved me and was regretig why he had married but i definitely know that this love won't lead to anywhere. he also understands that it won't lead to anywhere but he swear to take me as his sister and will really care for me.His wife also love and i love her and her children.he said he would like to kiss me at first but i refuse but i just thought of everything and i promise to kiss him for the first and the last time and i did. i think i have'nt done a bad thing becos i just kissed him to tell yes i loved you but it will never be possible. later i thought i should'nt have done that but we both felt happy and are ready to forget about that love.he wants me to move into their house and the wife is please to have me in her house, even their kids.but am still confused whether have done the wrong thing but i know he still have the love for me but he swear with the bible not to have sex with me and will never kissed me again. should i moved in, i am confused, have got nobody to explain my feelings to pls help
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reader, powder +, writes (29 November 2010):
powder is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni so much appreciate you all for your great answers thanks for taking time to help me out.all your answers were helpful. thanks!!! NO MOVING IN INFACT IT IS 100% OVERRRRRR
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): You said it - the love wont lead anywhere. What do YOU want? Do you want a marriage of your own, children, a loving family one day? Its not going to happen like this is it!! I agree with the other post - you are being used - and the whole set up sounds very very wrong. You have a choice don't you? Well don't do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): OMG, that manipulative *astard! He wants to have sex with u any time therefore wants u to be living with him.
For good ness sake he is married and u should not get involved with married men. He has kids and u are a kid yourself.
This man is a pervert and he is abusing u with his offer of treating you like a sister. This is bullsh1t. Why are u even considering this. U are a smart girls so What is wrong with you.
I am confused by your version of events: you first talk about just kissing then u talk about him swearing on the bible not to have sex with you? Please clarify.
You are underaged and u should report him to the police.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Why do you have to move in with him?where's yo family? Lot of people will be hurt here. Please stay away!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 This sounds as though it can only end terribly for all sides. It does not matter what he swears on, people tend not to take such things as seriously anymore. He will break his promise, he will hurt his family and he will hurt you.
Forget your feelings for him. He wants you in his house so that he can get to you more easily. In the end he will eventually want to have sex with you and everything will shatter. What form of ungodly love like this refuses gradual tragedy? It will not end well.
Do you actually trust him completely with this? Obviously not if you are still so confused that you seek help from elsewhere. You are right to hesitate because this is a bad idea.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): This sounds like a horrible idea, and ripe for abuse. You're too young to get involved in this sort of living arrangement. Poly relationships are difficult for people with years more life experience than you.
It appears as if English is not your native language, if not, where are you from? Where is this man and woman from?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): It is not wise to move in.Once he had feelings for u in the past you can expect the same feeling to be still present.Dont allow the man to be tempted and be the reason for a broken home.
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