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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): You already know he lies and cheats because hes doing those things to his wife. If he will do that to her, the mother of his children, the woman he gets into bed with every night. Do you really think he will have a problem lying to you? Hes told you hes not leaving for you. So he is just using you as a side dish. Very nice for him but a total waste of your time because its not going to go anywhere. When the children are older and you have wasted another few years waiting for him. He will come up with another excuse why he cant leave and so it will go on. Walk away and seek someone special of your own. This man is wasting your time, you can do so much better for yourself.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (22 April 2011):
 Yes and walk quickly. You are just a nice little fling 400 miles away from his wife and kids. What a nice arrangement - for HIM. He's using you. Get out.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (22 April 2011):
 married men/women very rarely leave their wives/husbands for their lovers because they have their entire lives set up with them. and to leave them would be leaving their comfort zone as well as would cause them to take a huge financial hit, and also, possibly lose custody of kids, etc. he has so much to lose. your best bet is to get out because you're never going to get what you want out of him. besides, i whole-heartedly believe cheating is a dispicable thing. if he can see you, sleep with you, and then return home to his wife and lay next to her in bed without feeling disgusted with himself, that's not a man i would want to be any part of. who's to say he wouldn't do that to you? i would haul ass. but that's just me. that's genuinely my advice to anyone who gets involved with a married man/woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): Yes. Walk. Run if you can because even i he does leave his wife for you his kids will probably hate you for being in their eyes a "homewrecker" even if in your eyes you did nothing wrong. And if he cheats on his current wife, whose to say he wont cheat on you?
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Yep!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 April 2011):
 don't walk away RUN away.
he's not going to leave his wife
and if he did... would you as his partner wonder where he was when he was not with you?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 April 2011):
Yes.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Walk away? How's about a nice crisp jog away? You've been hoodwinked my dear.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Yes. Walk away. He is lying to you and his wife. No good will come from this relationship.
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