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writes: My first cousin's wife and I have been exchanging erotic mails. We are both married and we discuss about sex lives and likes and dislikes. She has kids and I have none. There is a huge age difference between us but she seems comfortable about that. What should I do?
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (30 June 2006):
 Well yes, what do you mean, what do you do!!!?
You have to ask yourself if you are getting/giving all you can - and should be - to your wife..
If that is not enough then that is the problem you have to address!
Are you happy with your wife, and how far are you thinking of taking this? If you are happy and secure in your relationship with your wife, why not put her in the picture and see what she has to say about it!! I can bet it would cause her considerable upset and give her some serious concerns regarding your future together.
It may not be a physical affair, but, believe me, it is obviously cheating on your wife, and who knows what it may lead to?? Is that what you and this woman really want?
Sometimes, when the dust has settled, these things have (like physical affairs) brought committed couples to a greater understanding of one another, but only in a very special mature and honest relationship. Should that be the case, you would not need to carry on in this way anyhow. Make no mistake, if you are planning to continue this, one thing could lead to another and all hell will let loose.
Think of the future and of how this is would affect EVERYONE concerned.
Get sexy with your wife, she is the one who needs you, and you should be working on your marriage, not neglecting her to find stimulation elsewhere. Hope you can work this out.
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reader, janet +, writes (3 June 2006):
please tell me what harm you are doing i mean it is not as if you are sleeping with her now is it. i am married and i go online and chat to different guys it is about living your out your sexual disires and having fun while you do it/ stop worring about it you are not doing anything wrong and you are not the only one who does this
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (3 June 2006):
 I agree with Dr Pete, if this is just exchanging information and chatting then I dont see an harm in it. Its a little unclear what you mean by erotic emails, if you are talking heavy sexual flirting then I think its a problem and this is more than emailin but about an attraction then I have to agree that the best course would be to stop.
However there is no harm in a friendship and friends often do discuss these things. Hope that helps.
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reader, eddie +, writes (3 June 2006):
 STOP !
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): Would you mind if your wife were discussing what you've been discussing with another man?
In that is your answer to your problem.
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