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writes: Hi there. I'm a 33 year old married man. I have a beautiful wife whom I adore and 2 lovely children. For all the world we have a perfect life. I even feel like a bit of a hypocrit claiming i have a problem. You see.. I met my wife when we were very young. I was 17 and she was 15. Soon after we were expecting our first child. We made a committment to stay together and thankfully we were one of the lucky ones who were able to and are still able to make it work. Being in kinda a settled relationship I kinda gave up on stayin in shape and ended up very overweight. All tru my 20's I was very heavy. Other women were a non issue and I was very happily married anyway so i never gave it a bit of thought. However in my early 30's I got somewhat of a health scare and have since lost over 100lbs. I looked well for the first time in many years and other women have began to show an interest....lol please don't misunderstand...I'm not talking about having women flinging themselves at my feet or anything like that... But just showing an interest. whilst I can say with a hand on my heart I wouldn't entertain any of that carry on... in the back of my mind I'm somewhat torchered by the what ifs.. Sorry for such a trivial question but would anyone have any experience of this or have any helpful advice?
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reader, cherub +, writes (16 July 2006):
 What you are experiencing is boosting your ego and there is nothing wrong with that.Every single soul in this world enjoys a little massaging of the ego every now and then.It is pleasant and flattering.However as long as you take it at that and not take it a few steps forward then best wishes to your new found you.
You met young so will think what if sometimes,only natural,but the grass is not greener and a loving considerate relationship beats that hand down.
Your wife seems absolutely wonderful and you have two lovely children as well so use your improved self-esteem to entertain and share it with your family.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): Enjoy the attention, but don't make the same mistakes as the hundreds of married partners who come on here writing questions regarding their infidelity and ruined relationships!
Maybe you can use your better health to improve your marriage, e.g. you must have far more stamina now and because you are healthier and happier I reckon you'd be far better in bed! See it this way - your wife stuck by you when you were unattractive and overweight. Repay her now by focusing on strengthening any problems you have in your marriage.
I think if you were to pursue any thing with anyone else, you will live to regret it for the rest of your life... no women, despite how attractive she may seem is worth that! Stay strong and fill in the gaps in your marriage - then I think the thoughts in the back of your mind will fade away... good luck, and well done on the health changes! :)
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 Enjoy the attention. Flirt a little, but do not follow thru and respond. Stay true to your wife if you love her.
xx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (16 July 2006):
Enjoy the attention. Flirt a little, but do not follow thru and respond. Stay true to your wife if you love her.
xx
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (16 July 2006):
If you truely love you wive, just ignore all other attention
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