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writes:Hi Aunts and Uncles. I have posted here before and got some helpful advice so I'm back again! I'm really confused about the behviour of my ex. We split up about a year ago but stayed in touch. During arguments he has threatened to change his phone number and never speak to me again etc but has never actually done this. He came round to see me at Christmas and brought presents for myself and the family then phoned up just after Christmas and asked if he could come round etc .. He seemed ok when he was here and was talking about coming back with some treats for our dogs etc. He has had some psychological prolems and a nasty divorce in the last few years (I was with him for 5 yrs and supported him through the last part of his divorce - he was estranged from his ex wife when we met and she was seeing a new guy). I am just getting mixed messages from him. When he was here he stood hugging me for ages and I interpreted this as affection (as opposed to him just trying to get me into bed etc, which he didn't and in any case the house was full of people). He seems up and down as to whether he wants cnotact and wants to get back together again. I would like us to try again as I do love him despite his issues and we spent nearly 6 yrs together in total and were friends for a year before that and since we split we have stayed in touch and even met up a lot, although less so in the last few months. Can anyone make sense of this behaviour?? It's like hs is in two minds or something. Does the hugging and coming for Christmas with presents and asking if he could come again show that he might still have feelings for me? He seems to sway between being affectionate and friendly to getting angry about our old arguments. Help! It's driving me nuts and I'm not sure how to proceed to sort this out. Thank you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 January 2010):
It sounds like he doesn't know what the hell he wants at this point.
If you want to get back with him and make it work then you HAVE to learn to communicate with him!!
Talk to him and be honest. Tell him you still love him and you want to know how he feels.
Good Luck!! xx
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