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writes: I need some moral support... My 24 years long marriage is painfully dead.My husband stopped being affectionate years ago . and he spends most of his time with work. He is a good provider I must say. I know it great. We are not wealthy, but I don;t have to worry about the bills.Now. So we don't have fun ,or do anything together, our kids are grown now, they need lots of help, as it was never a normal family life, becuase of this work habits ,and his avoidance from all activities. It was one of those stories ,when something slowly start to brake down , and only one person care to fix it. Now, from my part I have done everything...counseling, and self improvement. I tried keep in good shape to be attractive, tried to inspire him to change bit no results.Now I wonder if its better to checkout early , or let this go any further on the same path.I don't have an affair ,but I know a man , who would possibly be a good choice for me, and I'm thinking to leave my husband to try my ''luck''/ Well I think I would have to leave anyways, but if I would go with this man, it would be easier to get going. I know it is not sure, and it is just an experiment. Or should I just move alone, and see how I do just by myself, what do you think? I know its sad, but I did everything I could. So it is not up to me anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): I agree with all of you here, I think she should not go and live with someone else, she needs a lot of healing after a long sad situation like that. Its gonna be hard to trust again. But no, don't stay in a dead marriage! Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): That is very sad. I know what you feel. Please go on your own, even if its very hard. Don't run into anything new, you are not ready. You have to work on yourself first...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): since you have exhausted all avenues don't just stay in the marriage for the financial rewards. go out and live your life but be certain to do the right thing. do the seperation/divorce the right way then move on with someone else. do not have an affair while still married.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 I agree with quiet-echo, it's best to go it alone at first. Affairs aren't the answer to a dead marriage, they're just a symptom of it. If you leave and something develops with the guy you're interested in then great, but I wouldn't make him the reason that you leave because if it didn't work out then you might end up feeling some resentment towards him which isn't what you need on top of the stress that divorce entails. Ending a marriage has to be what you want to do because you believe you'll be happier and get a second chance. Very best of luck with your decision. :)
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reader, veterinary  +, writes (7 September 2009):
If a marriage is dead is a difficult task to fix. I lived it. All ties were broken with my wife, and now we were to leave. again and only a chance acquaintance. are happy now.
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