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female
age
41-50,
*oluskinha
writes:Hi there,On Tuesday I was with my cousin and friend having a couple drink at this restaurant. A group of 6 guys come in and sit on 3 tables behind me. One of the guys that came in was really cute and I liked him. My cousin was sitting in front of me so she had a clear view of them. She was interest in another of the guys in that group too.Our waiter was really nice and noticed that we were interested in the group so we asked him to go to the table and ask one of the guys (the one my cousin liked) if he could come and sit with us.He went and asked but the guy didn't come. From what the waiter said, they were American marines that had just arrived and were on duty, and their commanding officer or superior was the one that refused. They weren't even drinking alcohol so maybe it was the truth.The deed was done so the guys now knew that there were two girls interested in at least one of them. One of them kept looking at us according to my cousin.I didn't want to back down because he is really cute and when he arrived he looked at me and I smiled a bit so maybe he liked what he saw. Or it's just my wishful thinking.Anyway, the night continued and me and my cousin couldn't find a way to approach them. I decided to write my number on a napkin (don't have business cards) and find a way to secretly pass it to him.I wrote: "I like your style.Hope to get to know you better.my name and phone numberBuzz me and i'll call!!!"And waited for the right chance. It came when he got up to go to the bathroom. My cousin alerted me and he had to pass by us to go to there. I called my waiter and asked him to give my napkin to him.According to the waiter, he gave him the number when he was leaving the bathroom and he didn't say a thing but kept it. He took a while to return so I'm thinking that maybe he took some time to read it.He went back to his table, and I didn't have the courage to look at his face. It's my first time doing something like this (2010 new resolution).Some time later, they were leaving and passed by our table to go the counter so they could pay their bills. The guy my cousin liked was the one paying the bills, and we found out that he was not one of the marines but from the embassy.The guy my cousin liked and my guy and one other called my waiter. According to the waiter my guy told him he couldn't speak Portuguese, but the waiter assured him that that wasn't a problem for us. And then he said that I was cute and he liked me also. Then they left. I pressured the waiter to make sure he said me, and he confirmed it. I asked him firmly, trust me.From what my friends say I have a cute face, but I'm a bit overweight so I had to make sure he meant me. I don't have much confidence yet, although I've been going to a gym for 3 months to change myself. And it's working too but....I can't go from 120kilos to 65kilos in 3 months, unless I royally starve myself.My cousin works at the port, she confirmed that the ship is indeed there. But nobody can approach it because it's heavily guarded and you need heave clearance to pass security. She has a friend at the embassy but she can't reach him. I'm exhausting all my connections too, to find the embassy guy but it's not easy.It's been 3 days now, will he ever call? Is he busy? Should I give up? I don't know what to do or what to think because there are so many possibilities.Thanks for reading...
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 well im proud of you its not often women take this kind of thye usually wait for the guy to do all the work, any ways i would suggest not waiting there may be a ton of reasons why this guy wont contact you there could be some rule or regulation preventing him or maybe hes not interested in a relationship
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reader, Lorenn.  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Seems like a tricky situation if you're asking me. You can wait around for him, but if it takes longer than two months. there's a problem. You shouldn't have to wait until he calls just because it's convenient for him! i wouldn't give up, but i wouldn't spend wasting my time either. if you go to all the effort and he finds that you have, it may resort in him thinking you're clingy etc. You should wait until he comes to you. If he does. You know he's decent. If he doesn't, he quite clearly isn't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Well done for acting on your new resolutions. You may find he was just being polite and wasnt really interested in you. Or he could be married or have a girlfriend. He could even be gay. As he hasnt called you its safe to assume for whatever reason he isnt available. If you are going to be more assertive you have to understand that sometimes things wont work how you want them to work out. The art is to shrug and move on. If you cant handle the feeling of rejection, dont put yourself in that position again x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 January 2010):
If a man doesn't call after a week, he's not interested. He has your number, so give him a few more days. The if he doesn't call, move on.
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