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*rincessofGod43
writes:my best friend i say loosely...her mother introduced me to her brother behind her back...and when we were introduced we hit it off right away...then she began telling him stuff like ..don't get into an arguement with her or she will scream and go off and hit you...and that is not in my character and she knows it's not true...then when we would have a tit for tat her brother would stand back silent as if he thought something was coming and wouldn't speak and i never understood until she told me that she told him i was someone who likes to fight...then when we did finally broke up she told me her brother was very distrought and that i should call him ...just to calm him but don't get back together because i did everything i knew to do to break you guys up this time...and then we got back together and she invited herself through talking to her family on my vacation to see him and she talked to him ...i don't know what all she said but we're broken up again...mostly the problem is he is dominican and speaks only a little english but i learned enough spanish to talk to him...my question is ...that is being diabolical also okay for a friend to feel...because this all goes beyond jealousy ...i really didn't have time to list the other mean things she did or said about me to her brother...but i need to know is this normal and am i crazy to think she is my best friend.
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reader, princessofGod43 +, writes (30 April 2010):
princessofGod43 is verified as being by the original poster of the question someone asked me why she felt it necessary to go to the lengths she did..well i don't know all the reasons but she stated that when i went to pennsylvania in april and her mother got deathly ill...and i was in the hospital with her mother for four days on my vacation...the mother has heart failure pretty bad and she may have a heart attack at anytime...she felt really grateful to me because her daughter who was my friend lives in michigan and couldn't come and her sons own a grocery store so they could only come at night...so she was very grateful for life and to me for being there and her mother told her this...and her mother invited me to the dominican republic to see her property and land...but she told her daughter she was going to settle her business...so the daughter thought she may give me something...and ways trying to convince me not to go...but i couldn't go anyways because i start school in maryland in october and need to save every penny...so this is long but i hope this answers somewhat she was thinking...in the beginning when we first started dating she said you will get your hands on my mothers money and land..she said i don't want that ...but i don't want anything from her mother .....
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reader, princessofGod43 +, writes (30 April 2010):
princessofGod43 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am sorry for the duplicate post because i didn't think the second one was going to be posted but rather sent to someone who replied to me...but to answer one statement here ..Jose didn't break it off because of pleasing his sister but because he believed she knew me and had my best and his best interest at heart..and wouldn't lie about me to him..because he is her brother and he believes she is my friend...however i do feel you on one point that he should still follow his own opinion and discover me for himself no matter what she says if he really cared...so thanks for the thought provoking statement Cindy you are a good help to me! Thank you
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 never say never,..who knows , maybe he will understand he made a mistake and he'll come back, but even if he does not... Princess,what are you talking about ?43 is YOUNG,nowadays. All the glossy magazines say "40 is the new 30 " now ! :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (30 April 2010):
Hey Princess, if he broke up with you to please his sister..he was not a man worth having around but just a wuss ! You haven't lost that much ,really.
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reader, princessofGod43 +, writes (30 April 2010):
princessofGod43 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to update everyone...i thank you for all your help believe me it has been a God send...I recently broke up the friendship with my friend the sister because the only reason we were talking anyway was because the mother told her to get in touch with me...she stated so many times and showed that she was jealous...so our friendship ended but after her mother introduced me to her brother i tried to forgive her because the brother was talking marriage...but that didn't work out for me because she worked overtime breaking us up...because her brother didn't know we werent friends for a time...he believe every lie she told about my character..and her justification was that i was getting to close to her mother and if i married her brother ...him being the oldest ...i would get my hands on her mother money and property...and she believed her mother talked to her about me too much...and she really didn't like that but i tried to reassure her ...but i really do think she has mental issues...which is why i believed i felt sorry for her on more than several occassions...when she said you are my only friend...anyway...we are all done...however her brother being 54 and i being 43 seemed to have lossed something that was very valuable to both of us...eachother...
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reader, princessofGod43 +, writes (30 April 2010):
princessofGod43 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhere is an update..but first and foremost let me thank everyone for your response i am singing and myself again Thank God because i don't like being depressed and down...My friend i told her we can no longer be friends because she manipulated my situation with her brothr to the point we don't even talk...her brothr as well as i have confided in her that we love eachother and that we were planning in a year after school to make it permanent and she stated she wasn't going to have that...so we are offically splitsville...and so is me and my friend...it's sad a little to say out loud because some people feel love early in life but for me it was late and now over...but maybe later!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): Basically , she's angry because you and her brother are going out. I mean if my brother got off with my best friend, I would be angry. I mean did you even ask her how she felt before you got withhim? Xx
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (29 April 2010):
If this is your best friend, I can't imagine what your worst enemy is like.
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