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writes:I have just read one article over the net:Cheating is in the genes.Somehow, I agree to this but not entirely. Coz I remember it now, the ex who cheated on me, together we used to talk about his brother before who was a player and a serial cheater. My sister's ex fiance cheated on her with 2 women, his dad had the history as well as his siblings. My girl friend who cheated on her husband comes from a broken family, her dad left them for a woman he got pregnant. My list goes on.Does anyone agree? Do you think it increases the tendency that their family had a history of this kind? I need to know coz I am starting to like someone whose dad left and never came back, he has a new family now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): I would say it's a personality trait. There are some people who can and will cheat, but there are others that, under no circumstances, would ever consider cheating.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 You can blame it on their genes.Otherwise, how do you explain so many in their familes are cheaters.
It could also be their culture or the way they were brought up in that type of family environments.
Whether it is true or not, it is up to each individual to decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): I wasn't aware of any genetic link regarding cheating. My personal opinion on this is that no, just because someone may come from a family where there has been a lot of cheating going on, it does not automatically mean that they will cheat too. In fact, it can have the opposite effect, and may make that person more determined to never cheat, and to create a solid relationship. It may show them how they DON'T wish to be, and make them determined to be different to what they have seen. Whether there is a link or not, I really don't know, but this is just my opinion. x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 No, it is not genetics, it is culture.
Monkey see, monkey do.
Those men who cheated where boys who saw that this is the way you behave in relationships. So that is what they do when they grow up.
It is the reason victims of abuse often become abusers themselves. If you see your dad hitting your mother then that is what is normal, so the son end up a wife-beater and the daughter ends up in abusive relationships.
Of course, people have free will and plenty of people manage to break out of this cycle but this proccess of kids being influenced by what they saw as family life growing up, is well known.
Oh and eh, this works both ways. You and your sister are both dating cheaters. Could that be an influence from your childhood? Or as you say, are you genetically programmed to seek out cheaters? As said, children who saw abuse become not just abusers but also abusees. The daughter who grew up thinking it normal that her mother was beaten, accepts a beating in her own relationships.
Why did YOU and your sister pick out these men?
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