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*abi0grl08
writes:So, I have this friend, which is a guy, and we have been talking on and off for about 3 years now. We both go to different colleges which are states away, but whenever he comes back for any break, we spend a few days together. Whenever we do spend time together, we have a special bond; we are always laughing and talking, doing things together and then sometimes we have our serious times. A little bit about him, he is in college and a football player trying to make it to the NFL and he has a son from a previous relationship which was before me and him were talking. I really do like him but I don't know if I should just put my feelings out there because I am scared of him running away. We never talked about our feelings for each other but we have strong chemistry. Should I try to hurry and move this on to the next level (it has been 3 years) or should I just forget about even having a relationship with him?
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reader, babi0grl08 +, writes (16 August 2011):
babi0grl08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for your advice! i did tell him how i felt about him and he returned the same feelings to me. thing is, now he is in oklahoma for football for the next couple of years while i am school. also, he does have another kid on the way by his estranged wife (i just found that out recently from my mom!!) and, he doesn't know that i know about him being married and separated and having another kid on the way. i decided to just go with the flow on this one!!
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reader, Will 77 +, writes (8 July 2011):
Football players in college who are good enough to consider playing in the NFL are magnets for girls. If he is truly a great guy and can commit to you, go for it. There are guys out there like him. If he can devote himself to you and withstand the advances from the girls on campus, then you have found the one. The child could just add to your pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): You don't say how often it is that he visits so its hard to see how long you have actually spent together.
I think you need to have a talk with him and ask how he sees the relationship between you and where he hopes it might go. Better to be clear now and I hope it is good news.
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